Hi Jackie1961, 

Welcome to the forum although I'm sorry to hear about Mum's diagnosis. It sounds as if it's been quite an overwhelming time for you all. 

Being diagnosed with cancer is likely to bring up many emotions. Most people feel shocked and don't know what to think. Some people go into denial and/or refuse to acknowledge or talk about their situation. Emotions are likely to be more intense if the cancer is very advanced and someone is facing the possibility of dying. 

Just be honest with Mum and let her know how you are feeling and that you're there if she wants to talk to you about things. It may be that things change over the coming days and weeks and she is more open to talking to you. It may be that you will just need to accept her wishes to not talk about things and support her as best you can.

We've some information on our website about how to support someone with cancer which you might want to read through and you can also speak to our team of nurses for some advice and support. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Do remember that you're welcome to post here on the forum to ask quetsions, offload or just chat things through. We'll do our best to support you. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator