I just found out my mother has been diagnosed with cancer in 4 places, the hip, lung, stomach and not sure where else. I am devastated as you can imagine and also very angry!

My mother first went to see the doctors about pain and swelling in her stomach/ribs in Feb 2019, she had a CT scan and was told she may have costochronditis?  She has been in pain ever since. She has been to the doctors many times upto mid July complaining about the pain but has just been fobbed off over and over again, eventually they said she might have a blockage in her gall bladder so they sent her to the hospital. The hospital doctor told her that which ever GP sent her to the hospital didnt have a clue what they were doing and to start agin with their diagnosis since my mother clearly didn't have a blocked gall bladder (this turned out to be correct) but he never tried to find out what the problem was with my mother, just another fob off,. After a few more times at the doctors they booked her in for an MRI scan in a few months. My mother complained she was in too much pain she and couldnt wait that long so her GP pushed the hospital to bring it forward slightly. In the meantime she started to get a pain in a hip around late June to early July which got worse only to be told it now could be her lymph nodes so she would need a biopsy. She had another cat scan and a MRI scan and had to wait over 2 weeks for the results. Whilst waiting for the results her hip worsened and she could not move one leg. My father kept ringing the GP to come out and see her but they insisted they would not come to a home visit and he must take her to the GP. He hired a wheel chair and my mother was in extreme pain getting into the wheel chair and getting to and from the doctors. They gave her some more pain killers and told her to wait until after her results. The next day whilst trying to go to the toilet she felt a pop and screamed in pain. My father called the doctors immediately and they said she would need to go to A&E she was told there was no ambulance and that my father must take her again. Just as my father tried to get her in the car an ambulance did manage to turn up on the way back from another call. Straight away the medic said her hip is broken because one leg is longer than the other. Turns out my mother who has been fobbed off my her local GP's has been manouvering in pain on a broken hip for a few weeks!!!! whilst in hospital they took decent care of her but she got the devastating news that she has terminal cancer!!! yet no trace of cancer at all in the scan in february! i cant accept this!! Whilst in hospital her GP contacted her to ask her to come in for the results not even knowing my mother was in hospital already knowing she has cancer!!! The hospital doctor said her cancer cannot be cured but she can undergo treatment to hopefully lenghten her life. However they said they need to wait for her hip to strengthen before any treatment. Isn't this ironic? their lack of care contributed to my mother breaking her hip and now she cannot undergo crucial treatment because of her hip. My mother has been at home a few days after being released from hospital after her hip replacement, she is feeling stronger on her feet but is again being left in the dark about what is happening. Surely someone should be telling her of dates of when to start her cancer treatment. I feel the medical care given to my mother is disgusting and i really need some advise on what to do? I want to know if this is common practice for other cancer patients? I wish to take action and make complaints but am not sure how to go about this yet we are not after any financial gain.. Why after going to the doctors for 5 months with all the tell tell signs could no scans or anyone even suggest looking for cancer? they tell you that catching cancer earlier is key which she did only to be then fobbed off and ignored, and then to later be told you have terminal cancer!!!! I cannot sleep, my father is off work looking after my mother 24/7 and is not being paid by his work. He asked for a sick note to be told he cannot claim a sick note, only she can obtain a sick note for herself. So they are struggling financially and on top of this devastating news. Some one please help, any advise would be appreciated...Mark