it really is hard, it’s good that you have told him you will take him to hospital, it is extremely scary and really hard to accept, the worst thing I did was google I cried for days after googling, but it’s also hard not to at the same time. If you have any doubt give 111 a call and tell them what you about your dad’s temperature and the night sweats, and possible dehydration and they will have your dad see a doctor today xx

Thank you Lauren i will do that as no choice , very difficult for yourself and me , we love our Dads so much we only want the best for them , my dad very independant , he does not like help , very hard for me , im so glad your dad is eating , told my dad about you and your dad , he said he is very happy for you and your dad , i told him you are helping me with advice as your dad is in a similar position . My dad listened and will do what you said . Thank you Lauren . Xx

keep me posted wont you.

i have started to write a journal about things me and my dad speak about and things we have laughed about, that’s helping me, and it was me that posted originally in this thread and I was desperate and needed answers so badly, I have calmed down a bit and writing and chatting has helped me so much, I cry whenever I see anyone a d they ask about my dad but I’m holding on to any positive moment I get at the moment, I’m 32 and the thought of being without my dad breaks me, I’m just trying to take it one day at a time for now. 

Sending you and your dad love xx

Thank you Lauren , its good to talk and you have helped me a lot as you are in the same situation just a fair bit more foward . And im the same in tears if i see people i know . I will pass on your kind words to my Dad , thank you so much and please pass on my love to your dad and you . I hope both our dads somehow beat this horrible disease at least have some respite . So hard on everybody concerned . Your original post has brought a lot of people together .xx

it really is good to talk, it’s hard to do it face to face when people give you that pity look, I just can’t hold it together, I don’t want to believe my dad has terminal cancer, then I imagine what a happy but completely sad day my wedding is going to be

i pray the same as you that a miracle will happen, at the beginning no amount of time was good enough for me but now I’m grateful for every day.

im shocked at how many people are suffering from this type of cancer because I had never heard of it before my dad, but I hope you get told that the cancer is just in your dad’s oesophagus and that he can have the operation that I desperately wanted for my dad. Please keep me posted and I’m here any time you have a wobble xx

Thank you Lauren , i prey that your dad beats this disgusting disease , i wish you a  happy wedding and i really hope your dad is healthy on that day , always have hope as nothing is certain in life . Look at how our dads are still fighting , stay strong , im wobbling every day as im still in shock regarding my dad . I just want his MRI scan to come soon , thank you for your nice words . Lets hope if there is any god up there he will help our Dads who both dont deserve this on them . Let me know too how your dad is in his journey as i want him to really kick this along with my dad . I did hear about this cancer but im also shocked how common it is , and seeing it for real , i would not wish this on no person . Stay strong Lauren you and your dad . Xx

Thank you so much, we haven’t booked anything yet, we have been engaged 3 years this year but I won’t go through with it without my dad so we will get married soon so he can be there no matter what

you also stay strong and im thinking of you and your dad xx

My pleasure Lauren , thank you very much , congratulations for the big day and hope you all and your dad have a great day . You will be in my thoughts , stay strong your still young im 48 and engaged too , my partner an angel ,  was our 6 years anniversary on the 5th July . Wishing you a nice evening and tell your dad keep fighting from me all the way . xx

Thank you it will be a bitter sweet day that’s for sure, I’ve been with my partner for 9 years this year, he is my rock, I will tell my dad that you said that. You enjoy your Saturday evening too ️Xxx