Secondary breast cancer

I have just been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer and can't get my head round it. Prior to that I was suffering from chronic depression and still am. It's a double whammy. I'm becoming more and more unsociable and don't want to see anyone.

Has anyone out there being in this position or, I'd appreciate any helpful hints. There's nothing I enjoy. I just hate my present life?

  • Hi I just wanted to say I know how are you feeling.I had tripple negative breast cancer treatment 2 years ago and I was told I was cured.My last mammogram this year in January was all clear so I was feeling positive.I started to cough 2 months ago so I went to GP she send me to X-rays and they found some dots so they send me for CT-scan.When I had an onco appointment she told me it looks like my cancer has returned in to my lungs,also liver and kidney.I was so shocked I am only 42 and don't want to die.I was eating healthy and kept fit.Just couldn't believe it.It was somebody throw the bucket with hot water over me.But my Oncologist is not very good she didn't explain to me anything,she was just sitting there while I was upset and angry.She said except chemo she can't help me?I was wondering why they offering for some people more treatment e.g.surgery and radio.I hated chemo 1st time it triggered for me anxiety and depression.Anyway I wouldn't believe that it spread so I flew to Germany to get an second opinion and they done also an ultrasound not only CT like here,it should be done at least 2 scans or biopsy before they tell the people that 100% is cancer.

    Anyway the ultrasound from Germany showed no spread in my liver or kidney and now I am waiting for the lung biopsy.Otherwise I don't have any health issues,I am eating well and not loosing weight.I am refusing the diagnosis until I get the biopsy.And don't understand why I was told it spread if the ultrasound showed no spread. I am really depressed I want go back to work in August I am off sick at the moment.

    I don't know what I will do if it's cancer.I am fed up with chemo and to fight.They offered me a therapy but I don't need to talk I want to be cured.

    If you want to chat I am here

     

  • I sometimes find it hard to get in. When I had  a recurrence they said I had 2nodules on my lung and was looking at potential lung and adrenal gland cancer. 1.50 years later I’m told I haven’t and I am all clear. Then a mark on my liver MRI scan, fatty tissue. Then a node in chest increased minimally to wait 4 months then scan. Go in for scan results 2 weeks ago and she says scan is fine. Then like a bolt out of the blue she’s says they are 2 spots on my spine to which I said r u telling me I have bone cancer to which she said yes. I’ve now to go on a bone strengthner which can cause your teeth to fall out and do something to you jaw (1 in 100) I’m a lot older than you but it doesn’t make it any easier x

  • Oh I am sorry to hear about your journey.Sometimes I feel this medical professionals don't know what they are doing or they don't show enough emotions or understanding.

    I am not sure if I want go down the route of chemo again or just to live so normal as long as I can.My husband got upset about when I talk about maybe not having treatment.