Hi there ...

The answer to your question is nearly all of us have .. l coped with my own journey (after an initial loose it day) took it all in my stride ... and just felt o.k and calm most of the time ... but when my son was getting tested for stomach problems which could have been cancer bassed ... I had a total melt down on the day of his colonoscopy... the whole day , I was just sobbing ..

Even when he text to say, he'd call me when home, I thought he was deff giving me bad news ... I was nearly screaming .. when he did call .. I couldn't hear him through the sobs ... hysterical , l think suits me then ..  thankfully it was clear .. but my point is, we can be strong and cope well for our selfs.. when it's someone we love, it's a whole new ball game ..

But once you get your head around it and get those feelings out .. get him a pair of vertual boxing gloves and get in the ring with him as his support .. wer all in there ... and together , look cancer in the eye and get ready to punch it right back ... I'm still here... your still here ... now its his turn to kick cancers butt ..

I know if my son had gotten that diagnosis we all dread .. I'd have come out fighting for him, like I did when he was diagnosed diabetic at 14 .. I cryed then .. then got my mum's head on and learned everything l could to keep him safe .. now get your sensible head on .. and do it again for him .. 

Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie

Hi Debzc31

Please dont beat yourself up my husband also has cancer, diagnosed in May 2019 he has been my rock when my brother became ill with pancreatic cancer  (sadly passed away ) then caring for my mother who lived until she was 100years old and 6 months and passed away December 2018, but when my husband was diagnosed i fell completely and utterly apart but not infront of him, yesterday and today i have sat by his side as he had3 units of blood (joke book with us and getting laughs from patients and staff ) ready for his operation on Thursday ( if they have a bed) this forum  has been  a life line for me as i feel unable to actually talk to anyone without getting emotional writing on here allows me to be myself, and admit when i feel **** or out of my depth i can honestly say you will get strength to be his rock if i can then i am sure you will to! Be brave and use this excellent forum so many on here know exact what you are going through  and they can express themselves a lot better than me.

Take care of yourself 

Hi Debcz31

Im in the same situation. My husband and I found out he has lung cancer today. He’s 43 and we have young children. I fell apart. He let two tears go whilst I’m struggling to eat and sleep. 

Hes my rock. I am hollow with fear. Sorry you’re going through this. It’s a nightmare I keep trying to wake up from. 

I'm so sorry we all have to go through this *** thanks to this vile disease. I've given myself a good talking to and my meltdowns are now done in private. 

Thank you for taking the time to reply xxx

Hi, we all have meltdowns, dont be to hard on yourself its like the world has been pulled from under your feet, they are our rocks, mine is having his operation today kidney removal and surrounding area will know more when he comes out of theatre, he has been  told he will need chemotherapy, as he has spots on his lungs how bad we havent asked, but the main one is the kidney. 

Try to look after yourself  and remember  that there are many here who know exactly how you feel