Hello,

So sorry to hear the news, my mother in law was diagnosed last September, they attempted chemotherapy however she just wasn’t strong enough. Sadly the cancer advanced very quickly and she passed away at the beginning of January.

It wasn’t an easy time as she struggled with eating, we tried shakes, ice lollies, brovil etc, anything that wasn’t difficult to chew. 

Sending positive thoughts to you all 

Hi

Im so very sorry to hear about your father in law, it’s such a terrible diagnosis to receive. I lost my Dad only back in April to this which is why I have responded. My personal feeling is you need to spend as much time as you can as a family with him. 

Kind regards 

Steve

Thank you for your responses. I think spending as much time together as a family is so important. At the moment we all feel like we are in some kind of shock and need to get our heads into a place where we can think about what we are going to do next and how to make the most of what time we've got. 

Hi

I never meant for my response to sound as negative as it did I’m sorry. Unfortunately in my dads situation it was diagnosed at a point where Chemo wasn’t available.

Pancreatic Cancer is unfortunately the one that is only found late on due to the position of the Pancreas as you probably now know.

If treatment has been offered to you then accept it and hopefully you can spend that little bit longer together which is precious time.

Regards

Steve

Hi Steve, 

Don't worry about sounding negative, it didn't come across that way at all. We've learnt a lot about the pancreas recently!  He's planning on going for the chemo and has some tests this week so we should have a clearer idea about what the treatment will be. We all know we are going to lose him though, it's just a case now of when unfortunately. 

I'm sorry for your loss. 

Kate

Thank you for the replies. Kate (TiredTeacher) is my wife and it is my dad with the diagnosis. I think we're all just very stunned at the moment and it's proving hard to accept. 

I've always been a daddy's girl and this is the hardest thing I've ever been through. I'm lucky to have my wife for support and for someone to vent at who understands that I don't mean it when I get cross!

It is all so unfair. It is too soon to lose him. 

I’m so so sorry for what you’re having to deal with. I was so close to my Dad which is why it has hurt that little bit more.

It is quite obvious you are going through that painful time yourself and once again I’m so sorry. 

Im never one for writing on these web pages. If I can chat and help someone through this horrible time I’m here.

x

Thank you so much. It really helps to talk to people who know what it is like. People offer their sympathy and apologies, and they're lovely people who mean well, and it's great to have people there, but they don't 'know'. 

We have to appreciate every second we have and make the most of what we have. 

I'm so sorry that you lost your father to this awful disease. Xx