My mum has ovarian cancer

I'm 48 and just found out my mum has ovarian cancer. She's 77 and has had surgery which removed her ovaries, womb and part of her bowel. She will also be going on to have chemotherapy. I'm terrified for her and my Dad, but we don't have a very close relationship so I'm struggling with the emotions. I was raised  in am emotionless household with indifference, so now having my Dad crying on the phone is really hard to handle. I'm the only family they have so I must do the right thing and I will but I am very confused. I'm also absolutely terrified about the implications for me. I don't know about her gene testing results yet, and I'm so anxious that I'm bloated, and now I've almost convinced myself I already have it too. I feel very selfish and angry, but incredibly anxious and scared.  Has anyone had any similar experiences? 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Oddbunny.

    A cancer diagnosis can bring up a whole host of emotions as you and your family are finding out but I'm glad you've joined us as many of our members have had similar experiences and hopefully some of them will share their advice and experiences with you soon.

    Some people have found knowledge is power so if you'd like to read up on ovarian cancer you can do so by clicking here. We also have some general information on how to support a loved one with cancer, including a section on taking care of yourself which is very important in these situations.

    I know this will be tough but the Cancer Chat community will be here to support you every step of the way.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator