Hi There

How did you find the lump?

Whats your story love?

Liz x

I’m ok feel better now the results are out in the open,at least there’s a plan now instead of what if’s 

I have pains everywhere,looking at moles and paranoid I have another cancer which is ridiculous.

I’m sad it’s comeback although it’s not a recurrence just unlucky? Feels a bit unfair but that’s life isn’t it

I’m bit older than you at 57,so my menopause is past so I don’t have the hormone imbalance that you are experiencing on top of stress, which of course makes everything ten times worse.

The first time round I refused to read or listen to stats about cancer, of course now google is full of cancer advice stories and I have looked too much at this which 

made things worse.

Theres no easy way round it, everyone is different on how they cope.I can’t cry just feel a bit empty 

I’m sure you will battle through to the appointment and really hoping the result is positive and not the big C.

Take care 

Gx

Hi Liz, I was washing my hair over the  bath with my pjs on, they fell forward and I  noticed my nipple was pulled in, panicked, stood up and examined and felt lump around that area. Then when I lifted  my arm up an indent appeared. Total shock as I thought I was ok as given all clear  a few months before. I have DCIS and invasive ductal cancer. I spent the first two weeks crying. Then two weeks planning as my son has significant needs and now the last week upset again as it approaches Monday xx

Oh I can cry! Im so angry I could burst. My partner has compartmentalised it and I feel if I talk or cry he gets angry because his way of coping is not thinking about it much less talking about it

I wont go on Google

Been there done that over some very strange symptoms that kick started my 6 month acute menopause stage since in Oct 2018 

I am not happy with how I was told. To be told you have cancer but we dont know what type how far its grown or anything about it for a week is very off to me and I was shocked and still am. 

They send you away with a warning to prepare yourself mentally for the "follow up" consultation, give you a seed of fact called cancer which everyone is terrified about,  but no firm facts and then let you unravel for a week or two as you wait to hear your destiny. I think most women would be already aware cancer could be a potential issue after the biopsy on a lump you have found.  So personally, I would have prefered to have been told it "We wont know what it is for sure until the biospy results come back" 

But I had no choice and was told  "It is what it is" I believe she said..It seems cruel and barbaric and no consideration as to if that particular woman can cope with such a harsh reality mentally for a week. 

I know of a lady who was told the same thing on her 50th ironically, she cancelled a cruise they had planned to celebrate her birthday because getting the results was more important. She kept on working because it was a distraction but at the same time she was throwing up from the anxiety of the wait and then she was told it was not cancer after all. That week of acute anxiety made her very ill for some weeks. So I am not a fan of this approach and I am wondering what made them start doing it this way and why they feel its "better" 

I had a superficial malignant melanoma in 2004 (meaning it grew outwards across the skin not down into the skin so it doesnt spread) I did not even know what type of MM it was until many years after the five year routine follow up period. 

I was younger and the diagnosis did not eat at me as mentally as this is. I think I did not believe it was possible to die of cancer so young it was unheard so I did not panic. I attended all of the ops and consultations alone I dont recall crying once

I'm not sure if you'll see this Liz, but hoping you might, I'm currently in the 2 week wait, after having a nearly word for word bang on same experience as you, 2cm deep lesion, I have no idea if it s contained, I didn't ask I was in total shock, and an abnormal lymph node they biopsied too, I'm 46, suffered terribly with menopause symptoms and started HRT 6 weeks ago which and felt like I was just starting to get some of my normal self back, then this!! I just wondered how it's going what happened next, we are coming back from holiday early next week to hopefully get the results Weds or Thurs, not that I feel like going on holiday!