Hi Nicola

Oh my...I feel so sad for you getting such a diagnosis so young...SC will be able to identify with the devastation of that in relation to fertility, I know.

I am older..56..so am post menopausal.. and already had my family so I felt desperate for them just to take everything out. I was so upset when I found out that wasn’t an option for me. 

I would always say take one step at a time, one day at a time Nicola. You have a lot to go through before you come to chemo and radio so put them out of your mind for now and try and get yourself prepared as well as you can in your head for your operation. 

I see things with a different perspective given my age and the fact that my kids are adults-25 and 28- but it was still awful having to tell them I had cancer. I’ve found telling those close to me the hardest part of this. I couldn’t see my girls in person to tell them as we all live too far apart so had to do it on the phone which was awful. BUT, I made everything positive, told them it was cancer which could be treated and cured and that I was feeling really good. They both cried, which broke my heart, but I didn’t break down. As their mum I needed to be strong so they have never once heard me being negative or being down, no matter how I’ve felt. That’s not been easy at times, but it’s a mum’s instinct to protect! They have lost 3 grandparents in the last 5 years, two to cancer, so they are frightened...I understand that.

Hope you will keep in touch Nicola-you and SC are both young and will be able to help and support each other through this, and as someone who has been through at least some of the treatment, I can hopefully help with information on that and the physical and mental issues all of this has caused. 

I am married but don’t work so spend every day alone...sometimes that’s not such a good thing! I really want to reach out and connect with other people who know what this is like and who can understand as this can be a lonely time. xx