what a terrible few weeks my dad has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer he’s only 52! Was supposed to have surgery Thursday said it’s now spread to liver..... can anyone give any insight to what’s going to happen next
Hello Claire; welcome to the forum although of course you would rather not need to come here at all. What a horrible situation for your family and yourself. You don't give a lot of information in your post - what does the medical team say about what they think is the best course of action? Others here can tell you what happened to them but every case may have individual features and doctors may vary on what they think best in the circumstances of each patient. I believe there are posters here who can tell you of their experience of pancreatic cancer and I hope one of them will pick this up. I will try to identify someone who can chat with you.. Perhaps in the meantime you could tell us a bit more - had your dad been ill for some time; is he being cared for at home by his family? Sorry to ask questions but it is helpful to have the larger picture. Best wishes. Annie
Just a quick further note. I have found a post on the forum which names people who have experience of caring for someone with pancreatic cancer so just thought I would attach the post so that you can contact any or all of them if you wish. It is dated September 2018 so I expect you will be able to contact at least some of them. Feel free to come back to me if you need help with this. Annie
firstly thank you for getting back to me so sorry it’s literally been 10days..... he has been having pains in tummy I don’t think he wanted to worry us all.... so he is very jaundice VERY I have never seen this before.... he had a stent put on last week but no help..... he has gone for a mri today to see what stage ect but the dr said he can not have surgery which was scheduled for this Thursday as it has spread to the liver..... I’m at a loss to do I feel I have already lost him.... my mom is completely uncontrollable.... brothers and sisters are all at different handling the situation..... grandchildren are none the wiser.... I don’t know if I’m allowed to talk about cdb oil!? I’m sorry if I seem a mumble I really am at the moment xx
Hi again. I think you are allowed to mention cbd oil as long as it is a reasonable statement and not telling everyone to use it! The moderators will tell you if I am wrong. Can I ask you to remove the name of the hospital where your dad is being treated (because if I don't, the moderators will). It is just that the terms and conditions say we are not supposed to name hospitals - not exactly sure why, it is probably quite complicated if people start saying good things about one hospital and another says bad things and it can seem like free publicity and not fair on hospitals that are equally good but not mentioned. Golly, I am rambling. I don't know how old the grandchildren are but it is generally wiser to keep them informed (in a simplified way) - I have cared for a few friends and neighbours in terminal illness and found that the best outcomes (for the children) were where they were told that grandad was ill and they visited him and were able to ask questions. It is amazing what they can accept (and conversely how they imagine awful things if they are not told.) This must be an awful time for you and I hope that you and your family are trying to support each other throughout. Keep in touch if you want to talk about it. Annie
PS I will tell the moderators you have been asked to remove the name of the hospital. They are very nice about these errors as long as they are put right.
