Newly Diagnosed falling apart

Hi there, this is my first post.

My dad has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and this Friday we went to see the consultant regarding a treatment plan. Obviously we are all worried and want the best treatment for him. They have offered him what they call the gold package re chemo because he is very fit and healthy. He if 78 but a very young 78. 

I asked about the Whipple procedue and she said he couldn't have that as most patients that had it done, gets further cancers everywhere because the margins need to be big enough not leaving anything there. His symptoms were jaundice because the bile duct squashed where the cancer of pressing against it. That was cleared with a stent. The recent scan shows the cancer has gone into the nodes. I understand the Whipple procedure can be done if the cancer is at the head of the pancreas which his is. They have given him 11 months to live with chemo. This doesn't seem right and can't get my head around someone putting a time limit on life. I am going to try and get a second opinion to see if he is suitable for any trials, as the hospital has already said there isn't anything but they are a cancer unit, whereas the hospital in London I want to get a second opinion from is the top cancer hospital in Europe. I just need some hope.

Do you think that if we insisted on him having the procedure, and if the cancer did come back, that the secondary cancer would give him longer life than leaving the cancer in the pancreas and just having chemo 

Regard Leah 

  • Welcome to Cancer Chat Leah although I'm sorry to read about your dad's situation.

    You're more than welcome to talk this through with our cancer nurses on 0808 800 4040 (lines open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m) but ultimately your dad's medical team and the hospital you're aiming to get a second opinion from are the best people to speak to about this.

    I do hope you're able to get all your questions answered and wish your dad all the best with his treatment.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi sorry to here about your dad, it’s a hard thing to have to be told, I am going through this myself my 49 year old partner has been told she has less than 2 years years to live herself because of of secondary bone cance in her spine,pelvis ,and skull it was the hardest thing in the world to here . But the best thing in the world is for you and your dad to make memories together and try to live as normal life as you c@n before things tern for the worst . It’s not easy but make the most of independent  living , my partner only wants to see hospitals as and when totally needed as said treat her as normal and just be here for her . We had only be together ant of a couple of months when she was diagnosed in October #makw memories . Wish you and dad all the best and all the luck in the word .

     

    john