Hello Sarahv15,

I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis - the news must have come as a shock to you especially as you were told he didn't have any of the classic signs of prostate cancer. If you want to find out more about prostate cancer, we have some detailed information on our website here including a section on the practical and emotional support that is available. You can also find out more about prostate cancer monitoring here.

I hope you will also hear from other members of this forum who have look after a loved one with cancer or who have themselves had prostate cancer and are happy to share with you what type of support they received from their loved ones after they were diagnosed. We have a lovely prostate cancer survivor here [@woodworm]‍ and I hope he will have some tips for you based on his own personal experience.

You can also call the Cancer Research UK information nurses on freephone 0808 800 4040, from 9am to 5pm, Monday to Friday and ask them any questions you may have about prostate cancer.

We're all here for you anytime you need to chat.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Sara,

Welcome to this great site. I was diagnosed with prostate cancer and didnt have any signs. I think you only start to show signs when the cancer is quite advanced. The only thing I had was the need to run to the loo when I heard running water. It was my dear wife who made me go to the doctores about it and through that my cancer was found early and I was put on hormone therapy plus radiotherapy treatment My PSA came down from a high of 70 to 0.01, the lowest they can measure. So I hope you take heart from my experiance

If your husband has been put on active survelance, it sounds to me as if they feel its not that advanced.  During this period they carry out regular blood tests to check on his PSA.

I would just say to you, people who have cancer like to try and maintain as near normal life as possible otherwise they feel cancer has taken over their lives. So I can only suggest to talk to him openly and honestly about how you feel for it is my experiance, it is often harder to be a carer than it is a patient for as the patient I felt I had some control over how I felt but knew this was not so for my wife and family. Together you can help each other get through this. 

As well as having had prostate cancer and reccovered from it I have lost twelve family members to cancer over the years

If their are any questions you have I will do my best to answer them though I am no doctor

Wishing you both all the best and please keep in contact to let us know how your both getting on Brian