Hello LVLLM,

I am sorry to hear that your father in law has just been diagnosed with mesothelioma. It must be an incredibly stressful time for you and your family at the moment. You have joined the right forum though to talk to others who really understand what you are going through. We have a lovely lady here [@jules54]‍ who supported her husband when he was poorly with mesothelioma so she may be a great person for you to talk to and she will know exactly how you are feeling at the moment, the shock of having just learned a loved one has mesothelioma. All of this is so new to you and you are probably feeling a little bit lost at the moment. I thought I would also share this link with you from our website. It contains detailed information on mesothelioma which may be useful to you.

I hope that you get some answers to all the questions you might have racing through your head at the moment when you see the oncologist on the 31st. If there is anything else you feel the need to talk about, don't hesitate to give our cancer nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040. Their lines are open Monday - Friday (except christmas eve/day, boxing day and new year's day) between 9am-5pm.

Keep in touch and let us know if you get a chance how the appointment goes on the 31st.We are thinking of you having to go through all this during this festive period - it must make it so difficult for you but I hope you can still manage to enjoy having some special times with your family.

We are all here every day if you need to talk.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi

This is a diagnosis that is very difficult to take in for both patient and family/friends. I have just seen the post that the Moderator mentioned me in so sorry for late response. If your father in law  is happy for his medical info to be shared with you then he can tell the oncologist or any of his support team which may make it easier when discussions take place.  I used to ask lots of questions which I wrote in advance and wrote down the answers  to recall afterwards.

My husband had some chemo but this had to be a very personal option and will depend on physical wellbeing  as to whether the treatment can go ahead.  Hopefully you will understand a little more after the appointment but if you have any questions I will try to answer them if I can and happy to chat.

especially coming at this time of year it will be hard to concentrate on much else so I hope you can make the most of any time you spend together.  Jules54