People react differently to this type of news. Have you been given a date to receive your diagnosis yet. This can be a worrying time, especially when you have a 2 year old daughter.
I would advise you to take someone with you to all of your appointments if you can. It is also a good idea to draw up a list of questions before each appointment if you can.
Please keep in touch and let us know the outcome of your tests. We are always here for you.
im so sorry about your diagnosis it always is a huge shock and how you are feeling is totally normal.
I was diagnosed with stomach cancer in August I’m 46 year old mum with 2 kids aged 9 &16, I don’t know how I got through those first weeks but there were lots of tears and so much fear of what lay ahead. My treatment is 4 chemo operations to remove stomach and then 4 more chemo, I’m currently waiting for my op on 2nd January having done first lot of chemo, it was hard but side affects can be managed, I wasn’t sick once and the nausea was managed effectively.
I still have the odd day where I’m down but mostly I’m just living my life as normally as possible, having kids makes you stronger and keeps normality going. If anything I’ve lived better since diagnosis as I’m having so much quality time with loved ones and not worrying about work.
Once a treatment plan is in place and you know what to expect you will feel better, but remember it’s ok not to be ok, don’t bottle emotions and seek help when you need it. I got sleeping tablets for those first few nights as I couldn’t sleep and I got lorazepam as a sedative to take on chemo days amen when I had my picc fitted so I wouldn’t be so anxious. I’m not advocating regular pill taking but they benefited me on the odd occasion.
The bbc radio podcasts you me and the big C are a great starting point for listening to other young women’s experiences of cancer, well worth a listen.
Daisy hill, welcome to the forum. I’ve been through all sorts of emotions since diagnosis and one day I remember seeing a tree by the side of the road and thinking if my car were to veer off i could save myself the dreaded cancer treatment plan... Thankfully I didn’t do it!
Getting the diagnosis is an overwhelming time. It took me weeks to come to some sort of acceptance and in some respects I’m still in denial! So go easy on yourself, it’s early days.
Like you I was dreading chemo, but I’m now halfway through and it’s been fine with very few side effects. I’ve cold capped and so far kept most of my hair. They prescribe a lot of antisickness tablets and I have not had any vomiting. Make sure your team is aware of your vomiting phobia though so they can do everything possible to help.
We are all here for you and giving you a virtual hug (( ))
Yes a bubble. That’s a good word. I feel like I’m looking in on myself.
There were many conversations had about chemo and it took time to decide so don’t panic. Initially it feels like everything has to be decided NOW but that’s rarely the case. Personally I have to take time to absorb all the information and go through the pros and cons of the options. I probably sent my specialists grey with my lists of random questions lol!
Ive got two smallish children as well (8&5) so they keep me distracted and focused at the same time. I’ve had chemo no 3 today so I hope I’m making sense...it sometimes gives me chemo brain which is a bit like baby brain but on steroids...literally!
Best advice take things one step at a time, as you’ll see this is the first post in “the good and the bad” thread which I can highly recommend. I only focus on my immediate next appointment/round of treatment at any given time as it’s just too overwhelming otherwise.
I could be facing Nose Cancer which has a low rate of surival. I do hope If I get it, its stage 1 or 2 or my chances are ... Well.
I am already considering every option if it isn't what I want, I have a 4 year old and a wife. But I do not wish to die slowly in pain. I have considered the faster way out, I do not like to view it as suicide as Im not taking my own life, if my life has already come to an end. I to am only 37.
Hold on to anything worth fighting for and fight for it, thats what it comes to at the end of the day i guess.
It sounds as if you haven't had tests yet to determine whether or not you have cancer. Give yourself time to see exactly what you are facing before you start planning such desperate measures. None of us want to die slowly and in pain. Medication can deal with the pain nowadays, if the pain is well monitored.
It sounds as if you are only thinking of yourself at the moment. What about your wife and child? Cancer affects the whole family, not just the person with cancer. Do you not consider that they are worth fighting for? Don't give up. You still have a lot to live for. Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.
No problem. I'm sorry that I had to push you, but sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind.
We can get very selfish with a cancer diagnosis, feeling that it is only us who are affected. I'm sure that your wife will be in bits if you get the diagnosis you are expecting and, I cannot imagine just how difficult it would be for her if you decided to take the easy way out.
It might be easier for you, but it certainly wouldn't be for her. Instead try to look at this as a time for you to make memories with your family. Enjoy every day and try not to look too far ahead. Just take things day by day for the time being.
It does effect my wife - She had to stay at home for two days as I was not all that stable for two days, I have chilled out a bit now, to the point I will try and get back to normal regardles of whats going inside.
Panic mode: You tend to only concider yourself, I have learnt I need to stay positive, cancer as Im told isn't a death sentence so much thses days, many people live with it and many people get free from it.
I don't even know what Cancer I might be facing but some form of Nose cancer. I'm going to try and hold a normle life and just remember, there is treatment. I just hope that is the case for Nose cancer asd well.
