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Hi all

Never done one of these so here goes. My partner was diagnosed with breast cancer around 5 weeks ago now at the age of 27. She found a lump in her breast and after alot of tests was told it was a 6cm lump. She has just had her first lot of chemotherapy. I think it was something along the lines of ECT-100 but may be wrong. It has knocked her for six and has made her really tired and slightly nauseous. After she has 3 doses of that over a 9 week period she goes on to the target therapy and has that for the remainder of the 18weeks. I just feel so helpless. All I can do is be by her side but just wish I could switch places! She's so positive about it all and she really has been an absolute inspiration. 

 

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    Hi Warren ...

    So sorry she's got this crule cancer at such a young age ... but hopefully her youth will mean she's a tough cookie ... and that will help her through .. yes it is a rough ride .. but the more positive you are the more support you'll be ..

    Saying that there's nothing wrong in admitting your both scared ... and just you being there will help her no end ... you can't take it away, but you can support her .. yes she will feel floored with treatments ... I've heard there's anti sick pills they can get ... she will feel tired for a while .. that's one thing we all have to get used to ..

    Take heart there's lots of us breast cancer lasses on here .. I had a grade 3 lump and mastectomy July last year .. I got some boxing gloves on .. and got in the ring ready to punch cancer right back .. it has come a long way now .. so hold on in there .. just be there .. and you'll get there together ... 

    Any time you need a chat , you can put any feelings on here and someone will know just how it feels .. coz we've been there .. Chrissie x

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    Thank you for a reply Chrissie! Yeah she is such a tough cookie and she is just amazing! It is very scary for the both of us! I can't imagine what she is going through but for her to be worth positive about it is just amazing!! 

     

    Since being diagnosed, she's been so positive about it. She's comes to terms with it and just thought right, this is the card I've been dealt so let's just kick it's ***!! She's always had that attitude towards anything she's done and she's applying it to this and we're going to come through it! 

     

    We had a little bit of a scare the other day as her temperature was high and they thought she could've had the start of sepsis. But after some blood tests and a course of antibiotics, the results came back all normal to our relief! They said it's usually on the 7-10th day mark that something like that could happen not the 3rd but you can never be too sure I suppose! After a couple ours we we're out and she was back at home.

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