Hi there ..

Trust me, we all went through the same on hearing that word no one ever wants to hear ... 

It's like wanting to scream one minute and then trying to think calmly .. then the what ifs set in ... I cried for 24 hours solid .. I shut myself away .. wouldn't see any one ... then because I got all those feelings out .. I thought it was time to get my self some boxing gloves .. if cancer wanted a fight, I'd give him one .. 

My daughter in law said .. o.k you have cancer ...no more panicking ...no more what ifs .. we will take every problem one by one as and when they come up .. and well do it together ... well once we were all in that mode ... i was still scared of the unknown .. still had a few tears ... not knowing how id feel with a line instead of a boob ... and how painfull would be the masectomy ... 

But boxing gloves on .. jumped in the ring .. looked it square in the eye .. and got ready to hit it back .. cancer wants us to buckle .. brake and give up .. coz it knows we can fight better when wer stronger .. so bend hunny .. but don't break .. you don't know how strong you can be till there's no choice .. and your backs against the wall ... well I had my op July last year .. a grade 3 .. the op was for me the least painful .. and here I am nearly 15 months later chatting to you .. and doing o.k ..

Yes it's scary .. but when you feel alone .. remember there's loads of us in the ring with you .. all trying to kick cancers butt ... and with us all punching back .. well get it on the ropes .. you can put anything on here and we know those feelings .. we've been there .. we can't take it away .. but we can hold your hand every step of the way ..  sending you a big vertual hug .. Chrissie x

Hi Maz, so sorry to hear of your news.  I can understand how you must be feeling. My husband had an MRI scan for his heart and they found a shadow on the lung.  Luckily it was caught early and was operable.  He had robotic keyhole surgery at Guys Hospital. He recovered well from that and is now undergoing chemotherapy treatment as after doing a biopsy of the lymph nodes during the operation, cancer was found in one of them.  The chemotherapy is as a precaution and he didn't have to have it but we are giving it a try.

Please take care of yourself and take one day at a time, there are people in this chat room that have been unable to have an operation but they have had chemo and radiotherapy and are living a fairly decent life.  Please let us know your journey and ask any questions along the way. 

Take care.

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear this, my mum had a chest infection, had an X-ray and ct scan. They have said it’s breast cancer, gone to the lungs and maybe liver. Our worlds have been turned upside down and like you full of doom and gloom. I’m trying today to be positive, like yourself my mum is fit and healthy even the doctor said how well she looked. I’m scared for the journey ahead I’m hoping for some advice and help from others on here. What have they said is next for you? My mums next appointment is for the breast clinic on the 18th. X