Trust me we were all scared witless on getting a breast cancer diagnosis ... The emotions spiral to wanting to cry and never stop .. then logic and hope .. then what ifs ... That's why you often hear the word rollercoaster ... There's no right or wrong way to feel .. we just have to go with it and get it out ..
Looking back that is the scariest time ... It's the unknown ... The world you knew is turned on it's head .. now saying all that .. my daughter in law got me and my son ... Sat us down and said right so you've got cancer ... No more panic .. no more what ifs ... No looking to far ahead ... We will take every problem as and when it comes up ... And we'll do it together ... And that was the best advice I got .. and true to her word she held my hand every step of the way ...
I had a grade 3 b c ... And had my masectomy in july last year ... I just wanted last year's summer holiday with my granddaughter... Well did that .. spent Xmas in Florida ... And here I am nearly 15 months on and doing really well ... Breast cancer has come along way ..
But I found once I got my head around it .. I got a pair of boxing gloves .. stepped in the ring .. ready to punch it back for every blow it delt me .. there's lots of us lasses on here .. wer all doing o.k ... All different grades and treatments ... But we're still here .. and all with one goal ... Kicking cancers butt ..
So know your not alone ... There's others on here too that will hold your hand through this .. for as long as you need .. yes we still get lows but we get back up and together in that ring with you ... Well get cancer on the roaps ... Sending you a vertual hug .... Chrissie x
I hope you are feeling a bit better now. I was diagnosed at the end of July and like you I was very strong and as the news started to sink in and like Chriss says below you see your world turned upside down, I started to crumble. I can tell you that it might last a few days and you might feel like crying as I did and so do so, cry it all out and then you will have the strenght to pick your self up again and get your boxing gloves and ready yourself to kick cancer.
I can tell you that I have had surgery, I am now waiting to start chemo and I was told today that I will start next Tuesday. Again today was a hard day and I just wanted to cry and couldnt get my head round to what I have to face and how come thing disease has come into my life etc etc but after a good cry this morning, I am ready again to fight. I hae no control over the cancer, drugs given to me, side effects etc but I have control over my emotions, my mental health, what I can do in terms of nutrition to get my body as strong as I can in preparation for chemo, and I also have control over what I do to get through chemo.
I hope that you can find strenght. As Chriss says, there are lots of us out there with different grades and diagnoses and so far we are doing well. Doctors know so much more nowadays, drugs are so much better and although it is one of the scariest moments if not the most scary moment in my life, I want to think that there is a reason for it and I will come through the other end stronger and wiser.
Take care, all the best and keep in touch if you need to chat to support. Everyone in this forum is fantastic and the nurses are amazing so reach out.
Thank you so much At last I have a date ..next Thursday ...to discuss op and treatment It has been a month plus since diagnoses and slowly I feel my positive strength is disappearing I am svared and worried I know I will survive but the journey will be hard
I am sorry to hear about your breast care diagnosis. Waiting for the results of tests is always a scary time. Our emotions are often all over the place and we cry copiously for no particular reason. If this is the case just let your tears flow, as they are a good stress reliever.
I am glad to hear that you have finally got an appointment to discuss your operation and treatment.You will find that your emotions become more settled once you start to fight it with all you've got.
Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.
As others have said, there are lots of us here on this forum at varying stages through diagnosis and treatment. I was diagnosed on 22nd August, about a month before you, and I well remember the feelings. This forum was a great help in the run up to surgery - there were things I didn’t really understand, like what was a soft bra that I was recommended, and the ladies of this forum pointed me to Asda soft bras which have been great.
The more you understand, the more you will feel in control, though there is never any certainty with cancer.
It sounds like next Thursday is 5 weeks post diagnosis. I suspect things will move swiftly once you have had your Thursday meeting. Take somebody with you with a note pad, and try to think up some questions yourself. It is so easy to be overwhelmed and then think of things afterwards.
