Hi there ...

Sorry your dad has this crule cancer , it must be so hard at his age .. and everything to do with cancer, seems to take a while to fall in to place .. there's so many of us with this ... but we wait for everything ..

Now this is only my thoughts, and in the end it must be his decision for the chemo .. but from what I know, chemo takes so much out of us ... and even young fit people find it really hard .. there's so many effects from it .. what does your dad WANT ... have you listened to his thoughts .. Will it give him much more time .. what does he really think about it .. it has to be his decision... and as a loving son that you sound .. hold his hand on whatever path he chooses ..

Sending you and you dad a big hug ... Chrissie x

Thank you for replying. Other than friends and family I havent spoke to anyone else about my feelings. We were told even after treatment if its successful he only has an 18% chance of living a further 3 years. I was asking the doctor last week is it going to improve his quality of life and they couldnt really answer. My Dad has said he has got to have the treatment otherwide he dies within the next 12months. My 19 year old son has talked to his Grandad and said you dont have to have any treatment just because you think you have to. I want my Dad around as long as possible but dont want him to go through any unnecessary suffering if the treatment isnt going to improve his quality of life and just give a few more months but still not feeling any better. He has had a dramatic loss in weight since January, is just skin and bones, has no appetite and doesnt want to eat much, he has very little energy when he used to like to walk and they arent even discussing treating his Lymphoma until he has the Lung Cancer treatment.

Hi there ...

If your dad really wants to fight this, then he should ... my bro in law, was having treatment, even though he was just a shell near the end ... some people want to fight till their last breath ... others like myself just want to live every day I get ... nether is right or wrong ... but your dad may get some comfort on trying ..

It's not easy either way .. but supporting him, is the best you can do for him now .. and at least he did it his own way ... so my heart goes out to you all ... l lost both parents in my 30s ... one quickly, one slowly ..  both were heartbraking ... always here if you wanna chat ...  Chrissie  x