Hello Peanuts,

Welcome to this friendly forum. I am so sorry to hear you have just been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer with liver mets. You have come to the right place though to talk to others who are in a very similar situation and who have had breast and liver surgery before. We have some wonderful ladies here who have been diagnosed with breast cancer, [@Chriss]‍ , [@rileyroo]‍ , [@Jbains]‍, [@lilianahomes]‍ to name just a few. I've also found this thread by [@Doogle1]‍ who mentioned back in March that she had also been diagnosed with breast cancer with liver mets and she was keen to talk to someone in a similar situation so don't hesitate to reply on her thread if you wish.

It must be very frustrating for you not to be able to do the things like you due the risks of infection like swimming. I hope that the surgeries and treatment go well. It must be a difficult time for your family as they are adjusting to the news and sometimes it helps to offload here because you will be chatting to others who will understand exactly how you are feeling at the moment both on a physical and emotional level.

If you have any medical questions at any point, our nurse helpline is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm (except today as it's a bank holiday) so don't hesitate to give them a call if you feel the need to talk things through with them.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi there peanuts ... and a warm welcome, although we all wish we had no need for this chat room, it has become my emotional home and it has got me through some really down times ..

Although I've not been told I'm terminal, we all live in its shadow ... and those thoughts cross our minds .. I had a total mastectomy on right last July... all in all the op its self was the least painful ... even with a few blips .. 

Now I'm 13 months on .. and doing o.k ... my oncologist recommended radiotherapy ... but because of my on going health problems, refused it ... but I am taking tamoxifen for however long ... this is only my outlook on my cancer, as everyone should be able to choose, l had amazing family support to do this journey my way ... I had a scan bout 6 months ago, and there was shadows in a couple of places .. but I'm not having any more treatment and want to live as much as possible every day, be it long or short .. 

I take life one day at a time... and build as many memories as I can for those I love ... but I can understand those who want to take every chance however small to hold on to ... I had last xmas in Florida. . And have been happy with my decision, for ME ... 

You need to take a little time and think which path you want to go on .. and whichever path you choose, don't look back with regret   .. I choose quality over quantity... 

I told my lovely oncologist from the beginning... I know he has seen hundreds of patients with cancer, but this is my cancer, my life and my journey... he supported me every step .. and said he was just a phone call away ...

My heart goes out to you .. and if you want anyone to chat to along your journey, I'm here most days .. but cancer wants us to crumble, lay down in the gutter and stay there ... I say look it in the eye, and stand up .. get your boxing gloves on ... and make the most of every day you have .. my last gesture on this earth will be sticking two fingers up to cancer ... it won't brake me ... sending you a big hug .. Chrissie