Thankyou for your kind word's im taking my mum for afternoon tea on Wednesday this is going to ne the first time we have been alone face to face im so scared im going to cry and not sure if it will stop. My poor daughter she is in her lasy year at university and the bond between them is amazing but its killing me seeing them both grieving and hesrt broken and i cant fix it or take away the pain if i could i would in a heart beat . Im so happy your cancer was treatable i hope hope your back to yourself and feeling.much better . Thsnkyou you for reaching out to me it has helped lots . Xx

Hi Amz,

What you are feeling is pretty much a normal reaction, as is crying your heart out. 

It takes time for the news to sink in and your mind will only accept as much as it can cope with at the time. 

Give practical help where you can, do nice things together, make some happy memories and give yourself and everyone around you time to come to terms with the new reality. We all get through this at different paces. Some are initially frozen with grief, others seem to be cheerful about it, but we're all cut up and coping in our own ways. There isn't a right or wrong way to face this, you just have to cope as best as you can.

Good luck
Dave

Hi Amz, so sorry to hear about your mum. Sending you the biggest hug ️ ️ ️ I am waiting for my ct scan to see if it has spread. Hopefully not. Go for your tea with your mum and if a tear falls, let it fall. Your mum wont mind. My only daughter is coming 30 and the last thing I want is to see her worry about me.I cry sometimes,I try not to but cant help it. Your mum must be so proud of yourself and her granddaughter. Enjoy every moment with them. Love, Anne xxxxxxxxxxx

Thankyou so much i just haven't let it in yet if im honest im scared i sound so selfish and pathetic im 42 and still need my mum to take to the dentist i cant face the end never mind the beginning. Iv gone crszy buy all teddy bear throws pillow cases hot water bottle to make her comfy. shes so tiny and already has lost lot's of waight i just want  to wrap her up and run away from this . Im sorry i sound like im the only person this is happening to and that is so unfair of me .

Well i will pray for you lets hope it hasn't spread and you can bounce back from this . Your a lovely person i can feel that from your kind word's . One thing i do believe ir gets hold of the wrong people its so unfair my love is heading your way fir yourself and your family extra big hugs .

Thankyou so much fir taking the time  to reply i didnt want to join this site because it makes it so real . But im so pleased i did your support has helped so much . Please contact me day or night and let me repay your kind words . Xxxxx

Sorry i forgot to say davek i hope your well or your loved one is on the road to recovery . Sending my best wishes. 

Now you have me crying my heart out ️Your wee mum will know how much you love her ️ ️ ️I have 3 sons and a daughter and 21 months ago I met the love of my life, my beautiful grandson ️ ️ ️Life is really so precious and I pray you have more time to spoil your lovely mum. You're not one bit selfish, you just sound like the most caring daughter your mum could ever wish for ️Love, Anne xxxxxxxx

Dear Amx,

I will be thinking of you on Wednesday. Hope you have a lovely afternoon with your mother.  There is nothing wrong with crying regardless of age.  It can actually help to release emotions in a healthy way.  There is absolutely nothing selfish about how you are feeling. It is an extremely difficult time. Take care xx

Awww Annie im so sorry i didnt mean to upset you . Im just feeling heartbrake for the first time and it really is a physical pain . I just dont know how to be with my mum on her birthday Wednesday the last thing i want to do is upset her even more but i feel like a balloon like you can only pump it so far before it bursts im scared to let it in because im scared senseless to let her go . I cant sleep my head is like its stuck on a veey slow spin under water i will be much better once i let go of this inside . I just wish my dad was here isn't it funny how how we go back to the child we once was . Thakyou from the bottom of my heart iv sat and read over all the replies and it opened the windows and let out thats rain we call pain so fir that i thank you all . Its so nice to know im no longer alone xxxx