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I’m a father of two small kids and my wife has been diagnosed with a grade 4 tumour in her brain/spine. it’s untreatable and we’ve been told she has a few months left with us.

I’m finding I feel permanently stunned and I’m just doing all I can to keep things positive for my wife - our kids aren’t aware of the seriousness of the diagnosis.

Im watching my wife slowly fade in front of me, and we seem to be looking at more and more out there ways to help her - CBD oil, diets and so on.

I fear these are all just to keep hope alive for her, and I’m struggling to remain positive whilst not ignoring that the diagnosis is utterly unlikely to be wrong, and that nothing short of a miracle would solve it. 

 

 

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    Hi there ...

    So so sorry, your heart must be braking ... there are no words to help right now, you just need your mirical ... there's a lot about different things to help .. but I think they just maybe help not cure ... I'm taking turmeric for a year or more now, if it's helping, I don't know but heard it doesn't mix while on chemo .. 

    There's so much out there, that claim to do stuff ... and l think they are looking into things that may compliment the usual treatments ... but even Paul McCartney with all his money tried with his Linda. .

    Is there any treatments offered .. any new trials she could try ... l hope with all my heart, you get your mirical ... and sending you both a big hug ... Chrissie x

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    Hi,

    I'm so sorry to read about your wife's diagnosis and prognosis, I can only imagine what you are both going through. However sceptical you may feel, if looking into alternatives helps keep hope alive it may not be a bad thing. 

    It might be worth seeking a second opinion - especially around palliative care options. You have probably read this but there some info at www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../

    Best wishes

    Dave

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    thanks so much for your kind reply 

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    This is just heartbreaking for you.  You should explore all options and do what you need to do to get through this nightmare.  Doing small things to make special memories    Is there help from the cancer treatment centre?  There is Maggie Centres in Scotland but not sure where you live.  Posting on this forum too will help as there are so many people with similar experiences.  

    Best wishes

    Jac12

     

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    Thanks Dave - your links are helpful :)

  • Offline in reply to Jac12

    we have good support, and the hospice is helpful - its just the shock of it all, and not knowing how long we have left.

    thanks for the kind words Jac12

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