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My husband just got diagnosed with bowel cancer

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Hi , I ended up here after googling all sorts ! Yesterday we got the news that my husband who is only 37 has bowel cancer , we now have the wait for the scan to see if it’s spread and what stage he is at ! They said the tumour measured 49 mm this is worrying us as seems large considering he only has been having symptoms on and off for 6 months !

 

we are still so much in shock and really are thinking the worst , we have 4 children and don’t know what to say to them if anything !

 

Anyway if anyone has been or going through this I would love to chat to you .

 

Julie x

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    Hello Julie; this must have been a terrible shock for you and your husband.  I don't have personal experience of your position but I am attaching some information from the MacMillan Cancer Support website about how to talk to children in this situation which I hope you will find helpful.

    www.macmillan.org.uk/.../talking-to-children

    I do hope you will get some helpful information from others who come to this forum.  Best wishes.  Annie

     

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    Hello Julie

    When diagnose with cancer any cancer is always a schock

    As for the children in my humble oppinion you should wait for the results and see where your hubby stands with this and what is the treatment plan.

    If I may I would like to suggest that you stop making searches on the internet, all it does is that it hads to your anxiety, stick with the medical team they are the ones who have the latest knowledge, anticaping the future is harmfull it keeps you in a state of worry.

    Put all your questions on paper for the next consultation when the results come in.

    I had colon cancer stage 4 did my chemio and I'm now in remission, yes the process was long I had a stoma from november 2016 until the 9th of May of this year day when they redone my transit with hot chemio.

    Now I'm battling bladder cancer waiting on a scan and the results...and I won't waste any energy with the if.

    If I can be of any help my door is open

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    So sorry to hear about your husband. I am in a similar position. Within the last 6 weeks my husband who’s in his early 40s has been diagnosed with bowel cancer that’s spread to his liver and lung. We have 3 children. At the oncologist appointment they confirmed palliative care only. I’m beside myself trying to be strong for the children etc and we haven’t even started chemo. I’ve no idea how to try and deal with the emotion. I really empathise with you. Alls I would say is until it’s actually confirmed , keep every hope however small. I’d also say do not google as it’s not helpful. I’d love to know where to get support for my children because it is difficult sheltering them from the worst. Xx

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    Hi Julie,  I like your Hubbie was diagnosed with bowel cancer back in February this year.  

    So far I have had an illiostomy operation then underwent chemotherapy and radiotherapy for 5 weeks.  I have just been told on 20th of July that the treatment hasn’t worked quite as they would have wanted but there is still hope I am at stage 3 with my cancer but I am still operable it will be a complex Operation but I am remaining positive.  

    I have found with every bit of bad news I have been given I go into a state of feeling sorry for myself for about half a day then I pick myself back up and think this Is not going to beat me so what I’m trying to say is at least your hubby has been to doctors he’s got the diagnosis so now the fight begins he has lots to fight for so I’m sure he’ll give it his best shot and if my experience of the NHS is anything to go by he’s in good hands.  

    I found speaking about it to my partner and friends helped me but I know everyone is different.

    sending you a big hug Marie xx

     

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