Hi hun I'm sorry the news wasnt what you'd hoped for. I remember that overwhelming fear right after my diagnosis and desperately trying to make sense of things. 

If there's one thing I've learnt through this, it's that you can't think too far ahead or you start to imagine scenarios that can scare the living daylights out of you. Each new day is a day to find the good in....and you will. It's also a day closer to being cancer free.

I haven't had a mastectomy but my lumpectomy scar is about 5 inches long and runs at a funny angle right across my boob. I hated it at first. Now when I look at it I see a battle scar which tells me that I won.

My op was only in April and I finished radiotherapy 2 weeks ago. I've just gone back to work part time this week. I'm still tiring extremely easily but I will get there....and you will too hun. I know it doesnt feel it right now but you've gotten this far and you haven't crumpled. Expect ups and downs and do not feel guilty for feeling what you feel. The ladies on here who have done this already are an amazing bunch and held me up on my down days, Chrissie being one of them. We are here as and when you want to share, chat, rant or laugh....and you will still find the laughter hun...just give yourself some breathing space and don't beat yourself up for being upset or scared. Take care of you x

Hi Millcroft, I am so sorry to hear that you got that bad news. When they tell us that we have cancer I don’t know you but when they told me I thought I was dreaming like this cannot be happening to me. I started thinking that their results were wrong I started questioning the doctors until I had to accepted That I was like anybody else and I could get cancer too. I was diagnosed about a month and a half ago I got a lumpectomy two weeks ago and I’m going to  get radiation.  You will be OK. Breast cancer is one of the most curable cancers nowadays . It’s a shock but in this journey we find that there is a lot of good people ready to help us. And God will send you the strength that you need. Stay positive, that is very important and eat healthy.  And I’m sending you a bear hug. Keep us updated. 

Xoxo

Liliana

Hi just thought I would say hello! Sorry to read your post but you have come to the right place together we help each other through every stage we go through on  this emotional rollercoaster we find ourselves on. I couldn’t have got through it with out the ladies support on The good and the bad! Thankfully mine came back benign but stayed around to help support others. I have now found another lump in the other breast so waiting to hear back from hospital but once again the ladies are supporting me. Sending a hug to go with all the others people are sending. You definitely are not alone x 

Hi Millcroft

Thought I’d come along and add my virtual hug too. 

Im not a breast lady but was diagnosed with endometrial cancer on Friday 13 th...yes Friday 13 th of April. Those feelings and emotions you are going through are tha same for all of us but we deal with them in different ways, I went to pieces. Normally a strong , no nonsense, get up and kick dirt in the face of adversity type .,fell apart.But with the help of people like Chrissie and Cornish I eventually found the strength to pick myself up and don my boxing gloves. People on here just ‘get it’ and their advice is well tested. We all have to take one day at a time, Cope with a set of test results, an op, recovery or further treatment, one step at a time. Cry, scream, hide, talk, rant, rave, moan, rail....I’ve done them all and then some. They are all coping strategies. What I’ve found though is that it helped me to try to keep my sense of humour and sense of perspective, not to look too far ahead and live each day for the moment.

I had my first op on May 14th  and have another next Monday then maybe radiotherapy and chemo after that. I’m looking forward to being back to my new norm! ! And as I’ve said on countless occasions...I hope this new Norm is young, handsome, rich and not too demanding. :-)

Look after yourself. I’m sending a virtual squeeze from my hand to yours.

Sundial