Sounds not unfamiliar. My wife was diagnosed secondary liver cancer some 4 weeks ago - pronounced untreatable. Discharged to home 11 days ago - me sole (pallaitive) carer (and I was diagnosed with an oral cancer the same week as she). While she had been told the "facts" at least 3 times in hospital, when I was sort of forced into actually saying "yes, you are going to die" 3 days ago I got pretty much the same reaction as did you. She suffers from chronic acute depression and all the bad side of that was directed at me. I don't want her here, my fault, etc etc. I hope that beneath that she knows I will do whatever she wants - she says she wants to be at home not in a home, so must think I'm OK with that - which I am as long as I am able. We are busy putting Care Plan in place - bit of a shambles but might keep her where she wants to be longer.

So I shut up and took it. And we have gone back to a semblance of "normal". Time I guess. Not a healer but a smoother. 

This probably doesn't offer any practical help, but maybe shows not alone and probably not unusual. 

My sympathy.  

your not alone i have secondary breast cancer but i have to say i noticed big life change in my hubbie when i was diagnosed he keept his distance becouse he couldnt come to terms with it even now he doesnt like talking about it its like he thinks he gona break me now witch i do understand but hy we in this together :) your wife is probley going thow anger fritend loads of emotions its not easy i my self have said to mu hubs on a number of ocations ill leave ill move out ect ect in heat of moment when i was diagnosed in march 2017 with seconday breast cancer ( in my breast limp liver bones ) we lost our home and moved in with my mother not an ideal thing to do but what with him working i needed the company while having chemo we stayed with my mum for 7months on a personal note our sex life toock a dive because he thinks he gona hert me iv become this fragle thing now all i wont to do is live my life for how ever long that is as normall as possable plz bear with your wife i can understand where she coming from if she need a chat im here :) good luck with the treament x  

My partner of 25 years also diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer and secondary I. Adrenal gland.

He had 5 treatment s of radiotherapy and back to nurse on Thursday tomorrow.

It is hard to get your head around it.

He was diagnosedin April.

He has good and bad days we know it is terminal but hope he will have chemo and try too live with it as long as possible 

At 65 he isn't age life  can be very unfair.

We don't have your problem as.we are soul mates and.love each other very.much but this has its problem s as watching some one get weak and tired is not  so.good.

We also worked together so my whole life is on a turmoil.

Try to kerk strong

How was your relationship before thi