Help, feeling lost.

So my dad has been feeling unwell for a while and was being tested for cancer.

On the 20th we were told that he had secondary liver cancer, and then two days ago we were told the worst... He has pancreatic cancer and been given 6 to 12 months. I lost my grandfather 4 months ago and my dad is the only male I trust and look up to left in my family and I'm absolutely devastated. 

I have gone really quiet, can't stop crying and don't want to talk, eat or do anything. I know I need to do what's best for my dad but I can't see past the fact that one day I'll wake up and it will be his last. I live away from home and can't get back so feeling really really alone. I don't know what support is out there or what I can do. If anyone can please help or offer some advice I'd really appreciate it as I feel a black hole is swallowing me up. 

Thanks xx

  • Hi there ... so sorry your having such a heartbraking time ... you must feel so lost ... can you get back sometimes to see him ... 

    My mum died suddenly of a heart attack one Monday morning with no warning ... I never got a chance to tell her how proud I was that she was my mum ... or tell her I loved her, or to hold her hand one last time ...  what I would give to have had just one day or even an hour ... to tell her all that my heart wanted to say ... 

    You have that chance, even by phone to let him know just how you feel ... it's one of the hardest things we have through life ... loosing a parent ... second only to loosing a child ... there's no easy way through .. it's the price we pay for having wonderfull parents ... I'm sure he will love a call, and don't be afraid to admit your both scared ... but this last journey he is on, will be easier if you can help him and hold his hand through it .. even if it's just by phone ... 

    He may have things he needs to say ... memories he'd like to share ... take every phone call, every day and make memories you'll keep forever ... that's what I'd want ... so I'm sending you a vertual hug ... take care, and be kind to yourself ...  Chrissie