I think a lot of people on here are familiar with feeling alone in a crowd of people.  

Thank the lord for that- thought I'd lost my mind!

Nooo. It’s just so overwhelming. So many people giving information and wanting decisions when your mind feels numb. 

Hi hazel .... well your certainly not alone, there's so many newly diagnosed lasses at the moment ... so your in our club ... which no one wants to join, but glad wer all in it together ...

The good news is we've all been there, and wer all still standing ... so hold on tight... there's lots of ups and downs ... but we've had them all... to gether wer kicking cancers butt ... we may not always win, but we give it punch for punch ... go with how you feel ... try not to look too far ahead... keep busy ... and try to get used to waiting for everything .. tests/results/ops... etc ... 

I just visited my untie today who had mastectomy 4 / 5 weeks ago... she's just finished radiotherapy ... and kept her hair and is looking really good ... and we had right laugh... you'd never think we'd both been through breast cancer ... so hold on ... you can do this ... Chrissie x

Thank you- I needed that! It's all a bit scary, the new words and terminology that I don't know (or don't want to know) it feels like I have no control over the process and it's just bowling along with me several steps behind. On Monday I went to the Breast clinic and had scans and biopsys done,then today I have cancer. Bummer!!! 

Hi Hazel.

So sorry about your diagnosis. You must feel overwhelmed with all the processing of information.

I am 43 diagnosed on Tuesday they want take another byopsy of my lymph node to make sure cancer is not present. What can I say but grade 3 aggressive triple negative. What a bummer.

I'm ok with it, getting on with daily tasks and prepared for treatment and surgery to come.

Be positive, strong and take each day as it comes. That's what helps me through each day. Everyone on here helpful and give good advice. Rest up, eat healthy and enjoy time with your family. 

Hi, and that's why it's refured to a rollercoaster ride ... coz you get on, hold on tight .. and once it moves, you can't jump off ... you get lots of ups and downs ... screams of fear ... some funny tummy feelings ... and it seems never ending ... but your always chuffed when it stops ... 

If you close your eyes, and look around, you'll see us all on that same ride with you ... everything takes time to digest ... the early days are the worst ... so be kind to your heart and brain, as they have to get accustomed to the ride too ...  

Any words you don't understand... ask them explained ... till you do ... l learned all I could about treatments .. l asked for a few days to way up pros and cons ... as l have a lot of bone issues and l don't heal well ... then l went back, with my decision ... l took back control ... but I've got an amazing surgeon ... a great couple of oncology nurses ...  and it helps I'm really quite positive  ... though I've had a few leave me alone and let me sort my head out , days .... 

To day, is the start of your journey,  but lots have been there, and many will follow you ... and lots of us here to tell the tale ...  so hold on, wer right beside you ... Chrissie x

Chris is right, it’s your your decision ultimately as to what happens to your body. This site is fantastic for getting information as well so if there is any terminology being bandied around and you can’t either get a straight answer from the people you are dealing with, or the explanation confuses you even more, have a look on here. It’s in plain english and no bs. 

Hi Hazel! 

Welcome and lots of love! I've just undergone 2 surgeries to get rid of that evil alien that I call cancer! As the other ladies will tell you I take the Sigourney Weaver approach to cancer kick its butt and take control. I'm very much for embracing life and not letting things get to me. The ladies on this forum are amazing and supportive. If you need s virtual hug they are there. Anything I can do to support just ask xx