Hi Kel,

A very warm welcome to Cancer Chat.

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. I have some idea just how stressful all this is as my own mum had breast cancer for 12 years. In her final year she was told that the cancer had metastasised in her brain, bones, liver and lungs. It was so very hard to watch her failing so fast, yet there was so little that I could do to help her.

I now have breast cancer myself. It was diagnosed 7 & 8 years ao respectively and I have taken Letrozole for the past 6 years. I stopped taking it last July. I hope that it works as well for your mum as it has for me. Many people feel helpless at this stage in a loved one's cancer journey.

The very fact that you are there with her is important. How well is she keeping - can she still get out and about or not? If she is well enough, are there any places that she might like to visit or people that she might like to see? Perhaps you could arrange this? Talk with her and say anything that may have been left unsaid up to now.

Keep an eye on her food consumption and medication. Make sure that she is eating well enough. You can also make sure that her meds are coping with any pain she may have. If not, you need to consult her care team. Let her know how much you love her. Do you have other family and friends who can support you through this ordeal? Accept any offers of help that are offered.

Try your best not to dwell on the end, but live for the day and do your best to make memories. You will find the strength to get through this.

Do please keep us appraised of how things are going. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx