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My mum has stomach cancer

Mumty1
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My mum is 88 and has just being diagnosed on Monday with stomach cancer and quite frankly im falling to pieces she's being my rock all my life a very strong woman in everything and I need help to be strong for her and  my chidren who are in bits I need to hold it together for them and for her they are not going to operate because of the secondary problem of an hiatus hernia so large her stomach is now mainly in her chest I need answers to so many questions why my mum she has never smoked or drank alchol I know she is an older lady but I just cannot bear the fact she is going to die in pain and there s nothing I can do I need to know how to help my children through this I know they are all adults but they are still my babies my mum has being such a big part of their lives everyday since they were born I just need someone to talk to about it all and feel there is no one here for that 

  • Welcome to the forum Mumty although I'm really sorry about your mum's diagnosis and for the reason you are posting. 

    Many members here know how tough it is finding out a parent has cancer and now that I've replied hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice.

    I'm going to tag [@nuppa]‍ in this post and cross my fingers that they'll pop back on the forum to share their experiences with you as their mum, 87 at the time, was diagnosed with stomach cancer last year. I also wanted to share a discussion with you where other members are in a similar situation in case you wanted to connect with them as it's always comforting to talk to someone who knows what you're thinking and understands how you feel.

    Kind regards, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Steph

    Mom was given 4 weeks to live in 2017 but I didn't tell her this but she did say I'm going when I'm ready and I'm not ready yet. I told her people live with cancer nowadays and not everyone dies,. She lived for nearly 9 months and lived everyday as if she was controlling time. Her passing was beautiful because she was in control of all her wishes to the end. There is life after bereavement :) 

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