Bowel cancer diagnosed

Im lying here in bed next to my wonderful husband of 2 years and today we have been told he has a large bowel tumour. It was so unexpected, no symptoms other than bowel habit changes and recent weight loss we put down to a change in our lifestyle. A fit and healthy non smoker, a good good man. We' ve both been married before and through the mill and were happy we had found each other, soulmates if you like. Now this, we are utterly devastated. We now wait fkr further CT scans, MRI and sigmoidoscopy. Initial CT shows no spread to liver, but I am now so scared these further checks will deliver devastation. I have no idea what to do bext. I feel like someone is squeezing my heart. Im in such pain for my husband and feel helpless. If anyone can help me, in any way, please do.x 

  • Hi Chan74, really sorry about your awful news. But, and although I am not a medic, I can point out a lot of positives. I know that bowel cancer usually, if it spreads at all, goes to the liver first. But so far the liver is looking clear. That's great! They are going to do further scans but there must now be a very good chance that these will also be clear. Nevertheless, waiting for the results of all these tests is really scary. We all understand that on this site. If the scans reveal no spread your husband will be operated on. And if all goes well it will be Stage 1 meaning he will not need chemo afterwards. Maybe he will need a stoma (temporary or permanent) but there is still a great chance he will avoid this.

    So hang in there and keep telling yourself that, although you don't know for certain what is around the corner, there is a really good chance that in a year or two all this will be behind you. xx Harry

  • I am so sorry to hear your news. I have no words of advice. It sounds like it's been caught early enough for successful treatment and I wish you and your husband all the best x