My husband went to the ER due to a lump in his neck, he was working in another state at the time, but we were not having marriage problems.

Dr did a biopsy and said it was malignant cancer, did a tracheotomy and feeding tube and started immediate radiation and chemo.

My husband's 40+ year old son lives in the town where he is in the hospital, and does not like me, I don't know why, we have never really had a conversation.

My husband said I couldn't come to the hospital to be with him because his son don't like me. I'm hurt, crying and don't understand why he would not want me by his side to go thru this together.

His recovery  and treatments will be 6 months, so I am not allowed to see my husband for 6 months?

I feel like this shows he doesn't love me, I'm treated like a stranger and I don't understand. I've told my husband how hurt I am, he doesn't respond to me. He has barely talked to me since this happened, he can text since thetracheotomy last Saturday,and he is still in the hospital. He is on FB messenger all day, but not to me. I'm thinking he has another woman, who would put this hurt on a spouse they supposedly love so much.

Can you advise me how to handle this? I don't know how to act, I'm just extremely hurt. We have been together for 5 years but only got married 5 months ago.

My kids are also grown and I would NEVER put them in front of him, but he has put me behind his son.

We are not kids, we are 70 & 66. Our kids are in their 40s.

Thank you for any answers.