My mum has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer

2 and a half weeks ago my mum was rushed into hospital with stomach pains, after being told by the doctor she had a water infection from kidney stones. 

After a few scans and x-rays she was told they had found a mass in her bowel and she had to agree to have exploratory surgery to find what it was, she woke up in a high dependancy unit with part of her bowel having been removed and had been given a stoma.

The consultants came round the next day to tell us that mum had an aggressive stage four bowel cancer and it had spread to the liver and the spine.

My mum is only 58 and at 29 myself I'm really struggling to come to terms with the severity of everything that has happened and how one day my mum was absolutely fine and the next, I don't know how long I have left with her. 

I can't but worry for my mum as she won't open up and I can only imagine how scared she is. 

Has anyone else gone through similar as I feel I have nobody to talk to at the momsnt

 

  • Hay janie  ... so sorry hunny your mum is going through this horrible cancer journey... l was 35 when l lost my mum who was also my best buddy and a huge part of my life and my son's ... she called me one Monday morning about coming to mine on the Tuesday. . Last words she said was ... see ya tomorrow love ... 

    At 5.20 that afternoon l got a call she had, had a massive heart attack. . Rushed to the hospital and was too late, she had gone ... I'm sharing this with you, because l just wanted even an hour to tell her just how much we loved her ... one more cuddle ... and a good bye ... I'll never get even an hour ..

    You have the time, be it long or short to grab lots more memories ... she may be scared to talk about it coz she doesn't want to see you upset ... it won't be easy, but if you can walk this journey with her, hand in hand ... tell each other all that's in your hearts .. admit your both scared and share a few tears too .. and if you can do this you may even have a few funny moments along the way ...

    I've got breast cancer too, now ... and that's what I'm doing ... living in the day ... find something each day that makes me smile ... no more "what ifs" no looking too far ahead ... coz cancer wants to see you fail and loose hope and give up ... you look it in the eye and take each day by the balls ... and you never know you may have more time then you think ... you can do this ... you can still have a scream, cry, rant at it all .. then get back up and start again ... im a grade 3 and im still here 8 months down the line ... and many more with high grades still holding on years down the line ...sending you a big hug ... Chrissie