Dad diagnosed with cancer today

Hi everyone. I’m devastated that my dad has just been told a growth in his bladder he had removed the other week is cancerous. I knew it was a possibility but I couldn’t face it being so didn’t really plan for this outcome. I feel so overwhelmed with emotion. My dads my idol, I love, respect and treasure him and I have a closeness to him that means the world. I’m just so upset. They can’t be sure they’ve got it all so he has to have scans before determining treatment and to make sure it’s not spread. But the thought of either radiotherapy or having his bladder out makes me feel so sick. I don’t really know what I’m expecting from this vent other than to try and get out what I’m feeling. Sorry if I’ve rambled. 

  • Hello MrsWrighty and welcome.  This is horrible news for you; it doesn't matter that you knew it was a possibility; you cannot believe that it might hit one of your parents until - wham it happens.   Don't apologise for rambling; you have had a physical as well as a mental shock.

    www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../bladder-cancer

    I have attached some information about bladder cancer from the CRUK website.  Don't feel you have to read it now; you might find it useful in the longer term.   Find out as much as you can from your dad's medical team so that you know what to expect and understand what may be involved in his treatment; sometimes fear can be dissipated in this way.  If you want to discuss anything about his cancer you can also ring the nurses on this website - they work Monday-Friday 9am-5pm on Freefone 0808 800 4040.  Also MacMillan Cancer Support are very helpful both to cancer patients and also families caring for cancer patients.  (Freefone 0808 808 0000)  And please keep coming to this website so you can let out your fear and frustration.  Best wishes.  Annie