Dad told he had cancer not sure how to cope

my dad was  Told he had bladder cancer which look like it’s gone to the   Pelvis  after having a ct scan , his kidney was not coping so had to have  stents put in his kidneys ,we have not hear anything from the hospital seen & it’s feel like forever dad not been well from December 2017 & it’s feel like my poor dad has changed so much ,I feel so hopeless I can’t cope with the thought I’ll not have my dad forever his my everything I lost my mum many years ago & just before she pass away she ask me to look after dad but some how I feel I’ve let them both down ,I’m trying my best to help my amazing dad  x 

  • Hello letarose.  So sorry you are having such difficulties.  I cannot understand why you are not getting the support you need.  Some suggestions: you could ring your doctor's surgery and ask them to find out what is happening.  Alternatively, ring MacMillan Cancer Support who are very good at helping people affected by cancer, either themselves or caring for a loved one.  Their Freefone number is 0808 808 0000.  You could also ring the nurses on this website Freefone 0808 800 4040.  They are available Monday-Friday 9am-5pm.  I am sure you are not hopeless - it is never easy to cope with a loved one being so ill and you shouldn't be left wondering what is happening.    The fact that you have come here to talk to us shows that you are doing everything possible for your beloved dad and I very much hope we can help you.  Let us know how you get on with your enquiries and tell us how you are coping yourself.  Annie