Hi,

I'm not surprised that you feel angry, I did for a while when I was first diagnosed at stage 4 after several trips to and from my GP. It may be that, like me, your partner didn't show all the classic symptoms of cancer and was given an incorrect initial diagnosis as a result. My own symptoms exactly matched a peptic ulcer with no weight loss at all with high energy and fitness levels. 

Annieliz's advice is sound. You need to prepare for the worst, whilst hoping for the best. This may seem hard-faced and will be the last thing on your mind but if he is your partner and not your husband you should make sure his will is up to date and reflects his current wishes. The legal position of common law partners isn't strong if someone's estate goes to probate. That's all part of preparing for the worst. 

Hoping for the best - has your partner been given a care plan yet? Ignore any doomsday scenarios the medics might give - that's just one worst case possibility which probably doesn't take into account the potential impact of any proposed or planned treatments. A lot of people are so devastated by hearing the worst case scenario that they choose not to have treatment which offers a small but significant chance of survival. My view was the odds were stacked aganst me but any hope was better than no hope. 

Best wishes and good luck

Dave

Hi,

I'm not surprised that you feel angry, I did for a while when I was first diagnosed at stage 4 after several trips to and from my GP. It may be that, like me, your partner didn't show all the classic symptoms of cancer and was given an incorrect initial diagnosis as a result. My own symptoms exactly matched a peptic ulcer with no weight loss at all with high energy and fitness levels. 

Annieliz's advice is sound. You need to prepare for the worst, whilst hoping for the best. This may seem hard-faced and will be the last thing on your mind but if he is your partner and not your husband you should make sure his will is up to date and reflects his current wishes. The legal position of common law partners isn't strong if someone's estate goes to probate. That's all part of preparing for the worst. 

Hoping for the best - has your partner been given a care plan yet? Ignore any doomsday scenarios the medics might give - that's just one worst case possibility which probably doesn't take into account the potential impact of any proposed or planned treatments. A lot of people are so devastated by hearing the worst case scenario that they choose not to have treatment which offers a small but significant chance of survival. My view was the odds were stacked aganst me but any hope was better than no hope. 

Best wishes and good luck

Dave