Hi all

New to the forum. My long term partner/husband of 25 years was diagnosed with terminal stage 4 lung cancer at the beginning of October. We have lived together for many years and never got around to getting married, but got a special licence and were married on Nov 8th just before he was due to start palliative chemo. Unfortunatley a few days after the wedding he got a chest infection and had high blood calcium levels and was admitted as an in patient for a week. Chest infection cured and calcium levels reduced. Chemo was cancelled as he was told he needed to build his strength back up for a couple of weeks first. His appointment to see the oncologist to refer him for a second attempt at chemo is for tomorrow, but yesterday he was unwell again and readmitted so it won't be happening again.

It looks like he has pneumonia this time, with high calcium levels again and low protein levels and possibly has a partially collapsed lung. He is barely conscious, confused, losing weight rapidly, unable to stand and has difficulty speaking. Doctors suggested to us Do Not Resusitate if he has a heart attack. He was doing the supermarket shop a few days ago with no problems so that hit me like a brick wall and I'm still in shock.

I can't believe how quickly this has progressed - mid September we went on holiday and he was able to walk quite a way although he was unwell ( mainly tired with a bit of a cough). We got the cancer diagnosis a couple of weeks after this. And now he is so seriously unwell.

Worried he isn't going to get through the next few days let alone ever make it to chemotherapy.

Rachel