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Just found out I have cancer

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Hi I just found out I have stomach cancer got rushed in to hospital 6 weeks ago was to go through surgery  but signed my self out was at the doctors today and got told I have 5 kids how do u deal with that am only 35 years old my kids are only age 7 /6/5/4  my 5 year old are twins x

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    Hi Mummy,

    A very warm welcome to the forum.

    I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis.This must be devastating to try to come to terms with, particularly when you have 5 young children. Do you now regret having signed yourself out of hospital? Would it not have been better for you to have had the surgery to remove the cancer from yur body? This would at leat give you a fighting chance, Without any surgery or treatment ,the inevitable is likely to come to pass.

    You are young at only 35. Life is so precious, as I'm sure, are your chilren. You need to fight for the sake of your wee ones, fight like you've never fought before to stay here for their sakes. Is your partner supportive or do you have any family or friends who you can discuss this with?

    Whatever decision you reach, I hope that it's the right one for you. Please keep in contact and let us know what you decide. We are always here for you whenever you feel like talking.

    Kind regards,

    jolamine xx

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    Hi I did not no it was cancer when I was in the hospaial  and yea I have family and friends my Hubby  is there with me and if it was not for my nice I would not be here today and yea I will keep in touch thank u for reply back to me x

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    This is so sad, you are so young. Take one day at a time. Do what the hospital tells you. Have a good cry. Let others help you. I was worried about my son and he is 27 lol so I cannot imagine what you are going through. Fight we everything you have. Thinking of you. Keep us updated on your journey lovely xxx

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    Hello What made you sign yourself out?? What treatment plan have they got for you? My husband has stage 4 stomach cancer and he’s having chemo xx
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    Hi,

    That's lousy news to be given at any age, more so when you are so young and have children. I know first hand how devastating and scary that can be.

    On the plus side, I was told that the younger you are the better your chances of survival as your body can recover more quickly from surgery, chemo or radiotherapy. I was 55 when diagnosed and was told that I was one of the younger patients. 

    Have you been given any treatment options? The fact that you discharged yourself before surgery won't restrict your options in any way. Talk to your oncologist or surgeon about the risks and benefits of each option, ask as many awkward questions as you like so you know which option gives you the best chance of watching your kids grow up. You are in a horrible situation and life is so utterly unfair at times but your decision about this will be the most important decision you ever make. 

    Good luck

    Dave

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