I have only just heard that our lovely son has cancer he is fit healthy non smoker light drinker sporty with a beautiful wife and a young son has bowel cancer which initially we were told was early stage however he has been given an iellostomy which was not a surprise this was three weeks ago results came 20 days after the surgery dukes C1 needs chemo to say I was shocked is an understatement Dukes C1 is also known as stage 3 cancer. How can the original diagnosis have been so wrong ? I feel I need to be strong and support the entire family whilst my world is falling apart I'm lost alone sad tired and angry and helpless how do I cope and what can I do ? Unfortunately I was a registered nurse so know too much which doesn't help when it's your son - yes I have the answers and can say the right things but it doesn't help me. I have two other grown up kids one is off to the doctors on Monday as this is genetic on my husbands side and the other is refusing to go I'm so scared for all of them - I truly feel as if I should pull myself together but it's so hard