Dad just been diagnosed

My Dad was diagnosed with kidney, lung and cancer on the ribs just last week. I had my days of feeling low then somehow had a burst of energy and find myself trying to keep myself busy at all times to avoid thinking of what is happening to him. I research research research until I'm blue in the face. I have a couple of children to run around after and that has deffinately helped me get on with it. Although now we are waiting to hear what happens next. I can't bare the thought that they give him less than a year. 

I know there is no deffinate answer but if the cancer has apread whether it originated from lungs or kidneys does that make it stage 4? If so can a stage 4 cancer patient with multiple cancers live past 1year? Can they survive to 5 years or more? I'm trying to take this one day at a time but I cant even think about the future anymore without feeling so low! 

  • Hi k p ... so sorry to hear about your dad ... it must be so hard for you right now ... that’s why your brain is telling you to keep busy... it’s when we sit or try to sleep it creeps up and feels overwhelming..some research is helpful... but can be scary too ... so much to take in ... and the worst feeling that what does the future hold ... we have been there, where you are now ... all those feelings your having is part of loving someone so much... and having a young family will help you through as you have to keep going .. 

    my mum went quickly with a heart attach... no time to say anything, hold her hand or give her just one more hug ... I would give any thing for just one day ... you have some time be it long or short to hold his hand, tell him all your heart wants to say... and still make some wonderful memories that your heart will keep forever ... it won’t be easy... it really is a rollercoaster ride ... with highs and lows but if you can find the courage to walk this journey with him ... it will so help him on this path he finds his self on... 

    im on my cancer journey now, and my son is holding my hand every step of the way ... we’ve had tears, hugs, and even found a few things to laugh at along this road ... cancer wants to beat you down and keep us all stuck in total dread ... every time you make a good memory and walk this path together.. you’ll be kicking cancers bum right down the road ... hold on in there hunny ... take each day as it comes .. sending you both loving thoughts .. Chrisie xx ️

  • Hi chrisie, Really sorry to hear what you are going through but so glad you have your son by your side all the way.. really appreciate you taking the time to reply to me! Had a hard day trying to explain everything ti my closest collegues at work today. Really does help to think possitive. Hope you and your son still have many more happy times to come xx