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Should I let myself hope?

Froggy28
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I'm 30 years old. I am a wife and a mother to  three year old boy.I fell in December and hurt my breast. Since then I've experienced pain. I finally went to the doctor who couldn't feel anything 'nasty' but referred me to the breast clinic as he noticed a prominent vein. 

Fast forward to yesterday. 

I went to my appointment alone. I was not worried. I had been told this was a routine 'just to be safe' check. After an initial examination an ultrasound of the area was ordered. On here they found something they didn't like the look of so I was sent to have a mammogram (what fun they are!). I was then sent back for another ultrasound and biopsy. 

Back to the consultant. I knew as soon as I entered the room and there were more than the normal amount of people that this obviously wasn't going well.

'It looks like breast cancer'

'it's early'

'its treatable'

??? How was this happening?? I was only there for a vein. They found a hidden 3cm lump.

the way the conversation went was as if he was telling me I have it and the biopsy results are just a formality. He would rather be 'frank'.

My question: Should I let myself hope that there's a chance that this could still all be fine? Or does the nature of the consultation tell me that the results are simply a formality?

 

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    Hi Froggy,

    How did things go today?

    I would expect your biopsy resuls to be back when you attend next Friday? I hope that the MRI goes well on Tuesday.

    You should soon be over this scary time and begin to feel better as you start getting down to treatment..

     Thinking of you

    Jolamine xx

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    So it wasn't the news I wanted. The bigger lump is attached to muscle so they want to do chemotherapy to shrink it before doing a mastectomy. They found three other much smaller lumps hence the mastectomy. They also found a shadow on the other breast which needs further investigation xxx

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    Hi Froggy,

    This certainly wasn't the news you wanted. At least you now know exactly what the problem is and you can start chemo to reduce the big lump. Have you made any further appointment for further tests on the other breast? I hope that you don't have to wait too long for this.

    Have they told you how many chemo you will have and when it will start, or are they waiting on the results from the other breast?

    I sincerely hope that the news on the second breast is better than that for the first.

    Keep in touch.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    I have to wait for them to check the second breast, they will then discuss the chemo regime from there I believe. Very nervous about the impact all this is going to have on my son xx

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    Hi Froggy,

    I thought that this might be the case. Have you got an appointment to return for further tests?

    You are naturally worried about the impact that this will have on your son. Do you have someone who can help to look after him whilst you have your treatment? Children are very adaptable, although at only 3, I expect that he may be very 'clingy' to his Mum.

    Try to think positie thoughts instead of the 'what if's'. I know that it is not easy, but it does make a big difference in fighting this disease. Try to make memories with your husband and your son.

    I am thinking of you and praying for a better result in the other breast.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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