My husband has cancer

My husband also has cancer, lung cancer diagnosed late June which has spread to lining of lung thus making it inoperable. The oncologist gave him 3-4 months without treatment, but he is now on chemo to try to keep it in place and prevent it from spreading but was told months not years. Although we're both in our 70s, it just seems so unfair, we simply hadn't finished all we wanted to do and with one fell swoop our lives changed completely. When the oncologist gave him the prognosis, I said to him, I don't know how you do this job! I can't imagine anything worse than giving people a death sentence. But we soldier on, trying to make the best of each day and if it's a good day trying to go out and do something but it is just so, so hard to watch a loved one gadually fade and being so helpless to do anything about it. My heart goes out to all who are in this same situation, what can we do but soldier on!

  • How lovely of you to think of others at a time like this. I feel your pain. My husband and I are just starting on this journey and I feel so useless - he is supporting me when it is him with cancer (oesophagus). I feel selfish and weak and I want to rage against the world - why him? But it will do no good. We have to play the hand we are dealt. I wish you and your husband well. I hope you have many many good days ahead of you. Ruth x
  • So very sorry ... it must be really scary time for you  ...  I lost my mum to heart attack and didn't even get time to say good bye she was my best bud and still miss her 27 years on ... but the only thing I can say is I believe she's always close and little things happen that give clues they are still around (when you don't look for them though) 

    Take every minute your to gether and make the most of this time that you get to tell each other how much they are loved and not be scared to cry to gether too , I believe they don't leave us and they will be there waiting when it's our time .... I wish I'd have had time to hold my mums hand and tell her how she changed the lives of so many people ... I felt her with me on my journey with my cancer and still look up to the sky most nights and tell her about my wonderful grand children and all the little things I would tell her if she were here ...

    Hope you'll find the courage to move forward and sending you a big hug xx