Hi Michelesally,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. This must be particularly difficult when she has already lost her son to cancer. I lost my brother aged 24, as a result of an accident. This completely devastated our family, but my mother never really got over the shock. Sadly, she died of cancer herself many years ago.

The emotons you describe are perfectly normal - your Mum probably feels the same. As for the tears, let them flow, as they are a good release valve. Instead of dwelling on how you are going to cope without her in years to come, why not try to make her as comfortable as possible. This is the time to build special memories together whilst she is well enough to do so.

See if she wants to do anything, go anywhere or see anyone? Has she got any hobbies that she could indulge in? Just spending time with her and letting her know how precious and loved she is will be of great value to her.. By putting a more positive outlook on things, you will all find this easier to deal with.

What stage is the cancer at and has she had any tests or treatment yet?

Please keep us informed on how she gets on. There is always someone here if either of you feel like talking.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you for your reply so much. So sad to read you lost your brother in an accident too. My mum like your mum has never got over my bros loss. I must admit coming on here reading other people's storeys is so helpful. Thank u from the bottom of my heart x

Hi,

You will eventually find that you can put a positive spin on things for the sake of your Mum, although you will still have the heart-break. Has your Mum's cancer been staged yet and is there a treatment plan?

Regards,

Jolamine xx