Hi AJ123,

Welcome to the forum that nobody really wants to join. I am sorry to hear about your Grandad's recent diagnosis.

You don't sound awful at all. Your reaction to this news is not as unusual as you think. People respond to shock like this in different ways. Some people become openly upset, whilst others almost try to block it out.

The best way to deal with this is by day to day. Try to appear as positive as possible in front of your Grandad, do what you can to keep him comfortable. See if there are any things he wants to do while he is able to. I'm sure that you will also shed many tears. This is a good escape valve, but try to do it in private.

Is he having any treatment and what sort of prognosis have you been given?

Please keep in touch and let us know how he gets on. There is always someone here to talk to if you feel the need.

Kind regards,

Jolamine

I'm going to disagree with Jolamine in that I think it'd be fine to shed tears in front of and even with your Grandad.

When I heard that I had cancer, I told the whole family and we've all shed a tear together. We've talked about everything including my possible dying, funerals and everybodys' feelings. We've all also laughed together, shouted at each other, laughed some more . . .

We've gotten everything out in the open and it's now easy to take a day at a time and try to have quality of life when we can. We all know the possibilities of my cancer but with everything already talked about it's not so scary.

Apart from the above, I agree with Jolamine.

Best Regards

Taff

Hi AJ23

i think I get where you're coming from on this one, when my dad first told me he had lung cancer it was so blasé that it didn't really settle in for a few days. 

I found that some days I feel utterly broken by it then other days I'm full of positivity. 

I think we all just deal with shock in our own way. 

Im so sorry to hear of your bad news. 

My stories much like yours an this is the first time I really shared this cancer journey with the people close to me as I'd always gone through life with stiff upper lip and going through stuff on my own coz I didn't want to worry them ...

But being open (quite by chance as my niece was working on the oncology ward on the same day) and she came over and held my hand and found the more l was honest , that l was never on my own , they held me up and I found the strength l never dreamed of with a few tears but mostly laughter ... Even when something went wrong there was always something that made me smile too ... 

Every one has their own way to cope and there's no right or wrong way . We just all do our best an some people don't have the support of family or friends and l can't even imagine how hard that must be ...

So to every one ... Just find what works for you and big hug to all our cancer buddies a big hug xx