My dad as stage 3 lung cancer

hi I have just returned home from the hospital where we have been told that my dad as stage 3 lung cancer which as spread to his l glands around the lung I feel so sick how on earth can I support my family through this.ive joined this site as I may get some support from some of you whom are experiencing the same emotions - I want to keep strong and positive in front of my dad but it's so hard 

  • You don't need to 'stay strong' in front of your Dad, it's ok to share all your emotions - to laugh and cry together, to tell him that you're scared, sad, bereft, unsure how to act or how to help . . .everything. Let him be a comfort to you from time to time, so he's still acting the role of father rather than patient.

    Help when and where you can. Be his advocate/companion, when he sees his doctors. Ask him how he feels about dying, don't hide away from it. Help him with arrangements. Sit with him in companionable silence. 

     

    Please note te above is all just my personal opinion. All, some or none of it might be relevant to you you and whatever you do, you will not be wrong. I'm a Dad of 6 adult children with a wife and I'm the one with cancer and a recent colostomy.

    We've done all the emotional sharing, talked about dying and funerals, laughed, cried, screamed at each other and cried and laughed some more.

    And now my children are getting on with their lives, which is important to me. But they will drop everything and rally round when the need arises.

    So I say concentrate on today and today's quality of life.

     

    Regards

    Taff

  • Hi I'm going through the same thing with my mum so I know how you r feeling.Is your dads cancer treatable.xxxx