New diagnosis of rectal tumour

Hi my name is Charlotte (38), and my husband, Charlie (39) has just been diagnosed with a rectal tumour. We have two gorgeous boys 3yrs old and 1 yr old. My husband had been experiencing loose bowel movements and more frequent need to go for about 6 weeks, went to GP and he ordered a colonoscopy. That was two days ago, and we have been told there are lots of polyps and a few cm mass/tumour, most likely to be cancer. It is about 8 cm up.  Biopsy taken, MRI on friday, and another colonoscopy next week. I am frightened to death!!! We both can not believe it. He goes to the gym 5x a week, he eats really healthy foods, he drinks (on weekends) but does not smoke. How has this happened?? I`m really struggling with all this. I have cried pretty much every day since the diagnosis. All i can think is the worst. Does the fact he only had symptoms for about 6 weeks mean its low scale? how have other partners managed to stay strong, i`m falling apart 

  • Oh Christine, I'm not sure that there are any words that will help ,  please know we are all rooting for good news this week coming  I've found I've had to concentrate on getting through today, and as I I've said before il get to  tomorrow when it comes , we have always planned everything so far in advance, and have gradually cancelled one thing after another so far . 

    speak very soon 

    much love 

    Tracey  xx

  • Dear Charley and Tracey

    Hope things are ok with you all . We have an appointment with the Oncolgist on Thursday morning. This is to discuss results and treatment as it looks like my husbands chemo will start next week. He has been diagnosed with small cell lung cancer, waiting for a head ct to check there is no spread into his brain. And the nightmare goes on. 

    We had the heartbreak of telling our little ones that we couldn't go on holiday with them because Grandad has a "poorly cough" and " the doctor said he can't go on the aeroplane". The eldest one said he would stay at home with Grandad and look after him so that Grandma can still go on holiday. When we pointed out that he wouldn't be able to drive Grandad to see the doctor his reply was "I have got my pocket money and will phone for a taxi "  

    I have no words to describe how that felt, this emotional roller coaster just keeps going.

    Love to you all. 

    Christine. X

  • Grandma77 

    ih christine , children have a way off making your heart melt in situations like this, I'm sorry to hear your news , I hope there have been some positives with your treatment plan , im afraid I don't understand this dreadful disease, am starting  to get some idea with bowel , but appears every type and person Stetson different, keep us I updated 

    big hugs 

    Tracey xxxxx

  • Thank you all, I’m still reading and very curious to reading the outcomes, of course I’m hopeful everything will be ok, I am 55 years old and your stories and worries are explaining me to a T, I will know my results in 7 days, there is a toumour in my rectum, that is what I’m calling it because I don’t know what else to call it, I just found this site and will try and cram 5 years in a paragraph or two at the end of your conversations, opps, I lost your conversations, I better post as a new conversation, although I’m still in the suspected rectal cancer stage, I better post my story for everyone to see, like I said, my symptoms I can date back to 5 years, I went through 4 family doctors and they all diagnosed me with the wrong desease, everything was wrong, it finally took another trip to The ER,  I was in dire straits, I did not want them to think of me as a person just looking for opioids again, I told the doctor straight, I’m not here for pain medications and I don’t need a tordoral shot no more, this is my symptoms, I believed I had something wrong me, gave him my thoughts and pretty much asked for a blood test and CT scan, the doctor listened to me and 2 hours later all hell broke loose, I’m off for another CT scan right now and will post later, thank you for your posts, they are helping me cope and my prayers are with you all

  • Hi Lavelleej12

    So sorry that's you find yourself here and with these worries. The waiting is just the worst, I remember it all so well. My husband went through radiotherapy and chemo for his lung cancer and that all looked fine, he had preventative radiotherapy to the brain but sadly the cancer had spread to his pancreas and liver and after bravely fighting all the battles he lost the war and passed on 17 Feb 2018. I am struggling so much with my grief. His type of cancer is known to be aggressive and it certainly was. i was posting on the lung cancer thread and just happened to engage in conversation with the others as I was so touched by their posts. 

    Praying for you and sending strength and love, 

    Love Chris. X

  • I’m so sorry to hear gramma, I’m so stuck for words, I’m not afraid of dying, I know I will go to a better place, but it’s the family I’m worried about, there is no question, I will fight this desease, I have all the symptoms, it will floor me if it’s not cancer, I’m expecting the worst but hopping for the best, my biggest problems right now is this fatigue, what is wrong with me, I have no energy, I was on a Fentanyl Patch for 3 days last week , I had the biggest headache a person can have while on that patch, the doctor now gave me 1 mg of hydromorphine, I take one every 8 hours, it does not even touch the pain, my new family doctor told me to have pain so he can pin point where the pain is, it’s going on 3 years of haveing pain, I want it to end, i will no everything on Tuesday, I will post the outcome good or bad, you all take care, I’m not religious either but I do pray, I’m praying for you all tonight, take care, 

  • My CT scan came back negative for the big C, I did my MRI on Thursday, I meet the surgeon doctor tomorrow at 11 am, so much for sleeping, 22 hours away are going to go slow, I’ll see is someone knows anything about this, this tomour in my rectum is big, probably the size of a goose egg, I’ll guess, cancer or not, I emagine it gotta come out, I will probably be wearing a bag for awhile? I’m guessing, any answeres? I’ll update tomorrow, and wishing you all the best charlotte and I’m thinking about you grandma, take car people 

  • Hi

    Hope that you get answers today. The constant wondering can drive you crazy. At least if you have answers you can start planning. 

    Love Chris. X

  • My mom just got diagnosed with rectal cancer.

    unfortunately i live far away, cant leave to be with her as i have 3kids.

    she has done Mri and blood tests. Still waiting for other results to begin treatment.

    i cant express how i feel. My kids absolutely adore her. She is a healthy 59 yr old with a spirit of a 29.

    it is hard being away as head is running wild with “what if” and “if only”s. 

     

  • Hey charley, 

    I’m so sorry that you and your husband are going through as stressful time. I am 26 and in the last month have been diagnosed with rectal cancer. I have added you as a friend I have been exactly where you are I can explain the beginning of all this to you. Here’s the the link to my blog also so you can read what symptoms / scans etc I had to have - beingyoungwithcancer.wordpress.com/

    i really am thinking of you all, sending lots of hope and hugs 

    j x