Hi Francedca,

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have had two bouts of breast cancer resulting in a lumpectomy the first time and a double mastectomy a year later.My mother also had breast cancer.

I don't think that you are at all selfish in thinking that you can't handle this before treatment has started. I suffered from extreme exhaustion when I was first diagnosed. I could fall asleep anywhere, even in the middle of a conversation. I became even tireder when I started taking medication and this is only beginning to settle now, 7 years post-diagnosis.

I hope that all goes well on Tuesday

Remember, that there is always someone here for you to talk to.

Kind regards,

Jolamine  xx

Hi jolamine

thanks for replying. I feel so guilty and weak reading all these stories.i was working up to a month ago and led in bed needing help to get to the loo.cant stop crying and like you falling asleep.i don't even want to talk 

they have told me it's incurable but treatable?????? More crying ..

sorry for your diagnosis and mums it's so hard 

thanks again hugs 

Hi Francesca,

Three weeks of not sleeping properly, in pain and worried sick about the future? No wonder you feel tired and exhausted - any normal human being would be.

Many of us get frustrated about the lazy journalistic stereotype of "brave cancer patients cheerfully battling tirelessly against this dreadful disease". Some lucky few fall into that category, the rest of us often feel tired, depressed and scared of what might happen to us. It isn't easy but if you keep plodding along, taking things one day, or even one hour, at a time you'll get through your treatment and hopefully enjoy the benefits of it. People will tell you that you're being brave but you won't believe them as you know that you have little choice in the matter and are simply getting through each day as it comes.

Best wishes and good luck!

Dave :-)

Thanks so much for replying.

im getting so angry with myself for being upset think I can't get my head round working a month ago now led up in bed in agony trying to sort out medication..I look at my kids and cry look at my and think well I know you all didn't sign up for this..

but seems sense to take to it hour by hours maybe I'll get through it better thanks.. and I know all these people mean well but come on snap out of it, your worrying about silly things I think if I could get out of bed I'd be flying at them hahsha in the nicest of ways 

I'll keep pushing to so thanks again 

hugs 

francesca