Hi Marmal,

This news must have hit you both like a ton of bricks. As if it wasn’t bad enough to have to deal with Cystic Fibrosis, it’s hard to believe that your poor husband has drawn the short straw and has now been given a diagnosis of Cancer on top of everything else.

To hear that his condition is inoperable must be hard to take at just 37 years old. Has his care team come up with a treatment plan yet? Waiting for results of tests and for treatment to start are some of the most stressful parts of the Cancer journey. Try to keep discussing things – It is so much easier for both of you when you both know all that there is to know.

When I was first diagnosed my husband and I decided to update our wills, arrange a power of attorney and make some funeral plans. I know that this all sounds a bit grim, but we feel happier since we did this. With two young children you will be anxious about finances. There is some funding available if you need assistance – it’s not a lot, but better than nothing. You can find out more about this from your care team. Groups such as MacMillan and several others can help you with this.

You are getting ahead of yourselves and trying to look at the bigger picture. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work, just try to take things day by day. Make the most of the time you have and set about making beuatiful memories with your young family.

I am thinking of and praying for you both.

We are always here if you want to chat.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx