Shut out

My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer bowel in may. He is 41 we have 2 children 7 and 6. He is very angry and seems unable to talk to me or our children. He has been poorly since diagnosis he is having palliative chemotherapy. I don't know how to talk to him anymore as he says I keep asking him how he is and it is driving him mad. I can't help it sometimes he just sits staring for hours I don't know what to do.

  • Hello. My fella aged 43 has stomach cancer. We have 2 boys aged 9 & 8. He is also having palliative chemo. He seems to chat more with his mates than with me, Probably cos like yourself, I constantly ask how he is. We are both off work at the moment too and so spending all our time together is driving us both crackers, as we're  not used to it. Please feel free to add me too chat xxxx

  • Hi there i know how u feel, my sis has been diagnosed with the same type of cancer stage 4 too.

    It's so difficult to face this but what scares me most is knowing that it will b a matter of months a year max if we're lucky until she goes sometimes she gets very angry too and we let her sort her head give her some space .

    it's been almost half yr she's diagnosed and i still feel lost

    all my love and sympathy

    Sandy xx

  • I'm so sorry for you and your sister it is such a horrible illness and the speed with which it hits and causes such pain is so frightening. I'm sure your sister appreciates you so much and is protecting you. That is what I keep telling myself with my husband. I don't understand why it happens but I'm sure keeping strong is the only way xx

  • I'm so sorry to you, your husband and boys. I cannot make sense of this terrible illness and the catastrophe it causes families like ours. I think my husband is maybe protecting me either that or my emotions are driving him mad. I still can't make sense of it all. I know what you mean about working - we never were really off work before this x