A warm welcome to Cancer Chat Francesca although I am sorry for the reason that brings you here.

The feelings you describe are totally normal, waiting to know what is wrong with us can be very difficult but please remember you are not alone, we are here to listen and support you whenever you need a chat or just a vent.

Also, we have a team of cancer nurses available Monday through Friday, from 9 am to 5 pm on this phone number 0808 800 4040 if you feel like speaking with someone one the phone.

Stay strong, Francesca.

Wishing you the very best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi renata

thank you I shed a little tear reading that with a little weight off my shoulder. After being to hospital with the pain in my spine I received a little good news that the cancer is on bone but not near to compressing spinal cord.well I think that's what they said it's still all a whirlwind.no more information.think we have to ring own doctors to get referred to an oncologist I thought my docs would already have done that. Anyway again I'm so glad I found this site xxxxx

Hi Francesca, 

I am sorry to hear that you have recieved that news. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer last year and it has been a big blow to myself and my family. I just wanted you to know that you aren't alone and I have found some people on here to be incredibly supportive and kind throughout this time. Sometimes it can be comforting to just know that there are people who can relate to how you're feeling. It can be very isolating to have this diagnosis and not be able to really talk to anyone about it. 

I hope in your case that there is something that they can do and that something will work for you for a very long time. 

I think that the waiting is the worst part. Try not to think too negatively until you know the results, I knwo that's difficult, but I find when my mind goes to the negative space, it can be difficult to get out of that. Do you have friends and family you're able to talk to?

Hi 

so sorry for you and dad.its all so devasting.we lost must mum 9 years ago to cervical cancer so I feel I've been on both sides sort of. I have great family and friends but just a little sometimes I don't feel like I want to tell them things. Hope that makes sense.the dark places are scary but having yourself and others that understand them helps not to go here as much . Hope to find out more information next week feels like it's dragging on and on. How do you cope .... xxxx 

thank you 

Hi Francecsca

I was given my positive diagnosis on 8 June, 10 days ago. 

I understand the feelings of frustration and fear of the unknown at this stage. I am having tests to find out the extent of the problem. 

I know the doctors work hard for us but I wish there was a little less jargon used or at least a cancer dictionary!

Stay strong in your mind and body. Do what feels right for you and I wish you a full and speedy recovery

Hi 

I agree the doctors are hard working after spending Saturday In a n e watching what they have to deal with is unbelievable. 

I don't understand most of there chat but at the moment I'm not taking much in either. 

Sorry to hear to about your diagnosis I've found this site great.reading ladies stories and msgs of hope brings me further out of those dark places and hope it will comfort you to 

thinking of you sending a warm hug 

Hi Francecsca

I'm having 'the procedure' today, camera inspection of bladder, cervix/womb and rectal. At least I'll be knocked out for it. Results on Friday. 

All we can do is stay positive and trust they are working as fast as they can. 

Do you have a good network of friends and family around you? I found it hard to share the information but have received a lot of support in return for the effort of telling people close to me. 

Stay strong. 

hug

Hi toblerone

everthings a worry I think but your right keep positive as much as we can

good luck today definetley helps to be knocked out let you know how you are feeling.

yeah great family and friends but sometimes feel I'm worrying them with my questions try putting on brave face but that exhausting. All different thoughts angry sad etc xxx

thinking of you today

hugs xxx

Hi gift the present 

it's francesca

how are you 

still finding my way around the sites 

I still am waiting on results 

hugs