Hi Vee3,

Cancer affects family and friends as well as those of us who have it. There are many support organisations for those of us who have it and I have found it much better to join some of these and to meet other people who are afflicted likewise. It is of great benefit to be able to discuss problems, many of which affect us all. By discussing our worries within these groups you meet people who feel the same as you and you can support one aother rather than piling more worry on to the shoulders of dear ones who are usually already shell-shocked at your diagnosis and struggling to come to terms with it.

I know that I felt very angry when I was first diagnosed and my poor daughter, who I have always been very close to got very upset when I told her how I felt. I have now met individual friends from various groups and we support one another, which is working out better for everyone.

Do you have a Maggie's or Haven near to you?  You can just go along to these groups for support. There are also several other local support groups. Your cancer care team should be able to put you in touch with some of them. I have also started gentle exercise classes which have made me feel much better in myself and helped me to lose some of the weight I'd put on with my medication. Now, instead of feeling angry with myself, I feel that I am in control of my emotions and can take charge of my cancer rather than letting it take over my life.

Hope that this is of some help to you.

Jolamine x