i have to have biopsy next week as ct scan shows tumour in right lung they think inoperable I am trying to be strong for my family but I'm am struggling so much as I am terrified
Hey retirednurse, very sorry to hear your news. Hey sometimes we cant be the hero & be strong for everyone. I tried that & just had meltdown one day. I know the waiting to get confirmation is the worst part but i just tried to keep busy & not talk about it. I just faced that day when it came. Be whatever you feel like being - cry when you need to, be angry when you need to. Being scared is so normal. Talk on this forum helps us heroes. Keep us posted pls.xx
Hi sorry to hear your news, are you terrified of having the biopsy or finding out the result or both. I've had two biopsys recently one on the neck and one on my liver. It's relatively pain free just a bit uncomfortable. Hope it goes well. Tim
sorry to hear your news, I'm a nurse and I've just been diagnosed with a stage 2 melanoma. It's very hard being a patient when your the one usually helping others, I'm waiting to see the plastic surgeon and I'm scared it's spread. Night time is worse for me as I live alone, I'm still working so I get something else to focus on during the day, I don't want to worry my family so I came on here - never thought I would ever need this type of help but I do! Midnight is a lonely place!
i wish you all the best, keep strong and try to remember all those patients you cared for and helped - now it's your turn to get the help you need
You probably know too much about cancer and are looking at the worst case scenario. I fully endorse the advice given from all above. Is it the diagnosis that scares you or is it the thought of the biopsy?
This is a frightening time – many people also feel angry and extremely upset. We all react differently. Just because you’re a nurse makes little difference when you’re the one who is waiting. Instead of bottling it up and keeping things to yourself do you have a family member or close friend who you can confide in? No matter how we try to protect our families, they are all affected when a loved one gets a diagnosis. It can help the family as well as yourself to be able to talk about it freely.
It can also be helpful to take someone with you to your appointments, as you won’t always remember the consultant’s reply to some of your questions. Writing out a list of questions which you want to ask is also helpful, as we often forget what we want to say at the time.
I presume that with the passage of time since you posted on this forum, you have had your biopsy and maybe even had the result?
We are all here to support you along your cancer journey and you will find this a great site for discussing things which you maybe don’t want to burden family with.
Thank you everyone for your kind words yes I had biopsy two weeks ago and I see doctor at clinic next Thursday seems to be taking for ever but I suppose with Easter holidays ,I'm not coping to well I just know it's going to be bad news,I just want to get it over with now ,and pray to god it's treatable
Hello Retirednurse
In March 2016 I was eventually diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma. It was a shock obviously but I thought ok let's deal with this, what shall I do curl up in a ball and sob my heart out and think why me or hit it head on and fight, which is what I did. After six months of aggressive chemotherapy I gained complete remission in August and had a consolidation cycle to finish. Unfortunately, I didn't have counselling so don't know how I was supposed to react but I am told everybody reacts differently. Cry, scream and shout or have a tub of ice cream, if it helps do it. Once you have your results, you will know what stage it is and what treatment is best for you. This will help.
It's so so scary but cancer can be beaten. Try and take someone with you, it really does help because you will be listening but not taking in what is being said. I wish you well.
